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I am a survivor of abuse

I tried to type up a longer, more detailed post but it got too hard. The bottom line is the following

There's no such thing as universal feelings, reactions, desires, needs that all victims share. Each one is an individual who suffered alone and carries the unique scars that stay with them and each one will react to future situations in life in their own way.

Therefore, there is no single response to abuse that will leave all victims feeling safe, secure, validated, supported, closure and everything else all the well meaning people here want to give them.

However, I think there is a single response that would leave all victims feeling further pain and trauma and that is "It can't be."

Rabbi Shimon Russell - How to Safeguard and Protect our Children

https://youtu.be/fefqSvXf0JI


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Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #800 on: January 02, 2022, 10:57:44 PM »


Second half of video
« Last Edit: January 02, 2022, 11:10:22 PM by Euclid »

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #801 on: January 02, 2022, 11:17:51 PM »


Second half of video
Second half is interesting. First is sad.

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #802 on: January 03, 2022, 08:08:24 AM »
Lots of book throwing out going on:

Two leading rabbis from the national religious sector met Monday morning in a bid to resolve an ongoing dispute over the handling of the Chaim Walder case.

Rabbi Tzvi Tau, dean of the Har HaMor Yeshiva in Jerusalem, hosted Rabbi Shmuel Eliyahu, chief rabbi of Tzfat and one of the rabbis who probed allegations of sexual misconduct by the late haredi author and educator Chaim Walder, prior to Walder’s suicide.

Rabbi Eliyahu brought testimony from the investigation he led into claims of sexual assault and adultery leveled against Walder.

The meeting was held after comments made by Rabbi Tau criticizing Rabbi Eliyahu’s handling of the matter were leaked to the press.

In a recording of his comments, Rabbi Tau can be heard questioning the allegations against Walder, and slamming the subsequent shaming campaign prior to Walder’s suicide.

The claims against Walder, originally publicized by Ha’aretz, “are all lies and bluff,” Rabbi Tau said. “It is all built on lies.”

“People live by the radio and the media, and they’ve come to believe it all deeply. It’s faith.”

Rabbi Tau accused Rabbi Eliyahu of “McCarthyism,” saying that he “lost all inhibitions.”

During the meeting, Rabbi Rafi Feuerstein, co-chairman of the Tzohar organization, excoriated Rabbi Tau, according to a report by Galei Tzahal.

Rabbi Feuerstein reportedly announced that following Rabbi Tau’s comments on the Walder case, Rabbi Feuerstein had thrown out all books written by Rabbi Tau which he owned.

“I don’t want them in my house, so I took the books and left them out in the rain. I call on Rabbi Tau to walk back his comments, to support the victims who complained against Chaim Walder, and to give them legitimacy. The time has come to draw a red line.”


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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #803 on: January 03, 2022, 10:49:59 AM »
https://youtu.be/_0yLQ66D7Q0


They're trying to launch a campaign to widely disseminate the "Let's stay safe" book for free.
https://artscroll.com/Books/9781422611104.html
« Last Edit: January 03, 2022, 10:58:44 AM by Euclid »

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #804 on: January 03, 2022, 10:53:28 AM »
Lots of book throwing out going on:

Two leading rabbis from the national religious sector met Monday morning in a bid to resolve an ongoing dispute over the handling of the Chaim Walder case.

Rabbi Tzvi Tau, dean of the Har HaMor Yeshiva in Jerusalem, hosted Rabbi Shmuel Eliyahu, chief rabbi of Tzfat and one of the rabbis who probed allegations of sexual misconduct by the late haredi author and educator Chaim Walder, prior to Walder’s suicide.

Rabbi Eliyahu brought testimony from the investigation he led into claims of sexual assault and adultery leveled against Walder.

The meeting was held after comments made by Rabbi Tau criticizing Rabbi Eliyahu’s handling of the matter were leaked to the press.

In a recording of his comments, Rabbi Tau can be heard questioning the allegations against Walder, and slamming the subsequent shaming campaign prior to Walder’s suicide.

The claims against Walder, originally publicized by Ha’aretz, “are all lies and bluff,” Rabbi Tau said. “It is all built on lies.”

“People live by the radio and the media, and they’ve come to believe it all deeply. It’s faith.”

Rabbi Tau accused Rabbi Eliyahu of “McCarthyism,” saying that he “lost all inhibitions.”

During the meeting, Rabbi Rafi Feuerstein, co-chairman of the Tzohar organization, excoriated Rabbi Tau, according to a report by Galei Tzahal.

Rabbi Feuerstein reportedly announced that following Rabbi Tau’s comments on the Walder case, Rabbi Feuerstein had thrown out all books written by Rabbi Tau which he owned.

“I don’t want them in my house, so I took the books and left them out in the rain. I call on Rabbi Tau to walk back his comments, to support the victims who complained against Chaim Walder, and to give them legitimacy. The time has come to draw a red line.”
https://twitter.com/shlomopyuter/status/1477940431514132482
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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #805 on: January 03, 2022, 11:05:50 AM »
https://youtu.be/_0yLQ66D7Q0


They're trying to launch a campaign to widely disseminate the "Let's stay safe" book for free.
https://artscroll.com/Books/9781422611104.html


#IStandWithAbuseSurvivors

"It's not OK to praise an abuser"

We will know that this message resonates when the Israeli Yated gets massive subscription cancellations, and bans from prominent leaders!
I've been waiting over 5 years with bated breath for someone to say that!
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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #806 on: January 03, 2022, 11:28:23 AM »
https://youtu.be/_0yLQ66D7Q0
DW told me she saw Rabbi Horowitz interviewing a woman Esti Hamilton yesterday who says she spoke with the head of an Israeli child advocacy organization, Magen LaKehilot, that day. The woman informed her that she knew two of CW’s victims personally, and after his suicide another four came forward for help from the organization. One of the victims they were working with attempted suicide yesterday and they managed to save her life. R”l.
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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #807 on: January 03, 2022, 11:30:37 AM »
DW told me she saw Rabbi Horowitz interviewing a woman Esti Hamilton yesterday who says she spoke with the head of an Israeli child advocacy organization, Magen LaKehilot, that day. The woman informed her that she knew two of CW’s victims personally, and after his suicide another four came forward for help from the organization. One of the victims they were working with attempted suicide yesterday and they managed to save her life. R”l.
Any link?
Save your time, I don't answer PM. Post it in the forum and a dedicated DDF'er will get back to you as soon as possible.

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #808 on: January 03, 2022, 11:39:05 AM »
Any link?
https://t.co/mIvXnFvmNN

This is the link that he posted for his discussion with Esti Hamilton.
(I can't open it so I don't know if its the same one referenced above).

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #809 on: January 03, 2022, 11:43:33 AM »
Any link?
https://youtu.be/_0yLQ66D7Q0
It should be another video on his YouTube channel linked here from yesterday, interview with Rebbetzin Esti Hamilton, I believe it’s right after the 19 minute mark.
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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #810 on: January 03, 2022, 12:44:59 PM »
Any link?

This is the Youtube version
if you want a real measured approach and someone who is very well versed in this subject listen to his various videos on this

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #811 on: January 03, 2022, 01:04:08 PM »

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #812 on: January 03, 2022, 01:20:43 PM »
Rav Zev Leff

https://www.torahanytime.com/#/lectures?a=173515
I don’t know how much weight should be given to this perspective considering he openly admits he doesn’t even know what the allegations are, but a wise outlook on abuse in general I’m sure.
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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #813 on: January 03, 2022, 02:12:54 PM »
Any link?

For what it's worth, this guy reported the attempted suicide and then retracted it as it seems to stimulate further self hurt


https://twitter.com/rafiperlshtein/status/1477730235076468745
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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #814 on: January 03, 2022, 02:18:07 PM »
This is the Youtube version
if you want a real measured approach and someone who is very well versed in this subject listen to his various videos on this



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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #815 on: January 03, 2022, 02:33:12 PM »


I was going to post this here as well, the most emotionally sensitive and intelligent discussion on the topic.
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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #816 on: January 03, 2022, 05:42:20 PM »
https://youtu.be/_0yLQ66D7Q0


They're trying to launch a campaign to widely disseminate the "Let's stay safe" book for free.
https://artscroll.com/Books/9781422611104.html

People should have the brains to buy it...

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #817 on: January 03, 2022, 07:13:53 PM »
Watching Rabbi Horowitz and how he speaks to so many survivors on a regular basis, etc. and this mind boggling question comes to mind.

WHY DOESN'T HE RELEASE A LIST OF ALL THESE ABUSERS??

Why is it that only after someone else breaks a story he jumps on the story with overwhelming expertise? Can you imagine how many lives he can save by releasing a list of THE abusers so we all know who they are, so we can make sure our children stay away from them?

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #818 on: January 03, 2022, 07:25:53 PM »
Watching Rabbi Horowitz and how he speaks to so many survivors on a regular basis, etc. and this mind boggling question comes to mind.

WHY DOESN'T HE RELEASE A LIST OF ALL THESE ABUSERS??

Why is it that only after someone else breaks a story he jumps on the story with overwhelming expertise? Can you imagine how many lives he can save by releasing a list of THE abusers so we all know who they are, so we can make sure our children stay away from them?
He doesn't release the list because when he does he gets sued. Even when he warned about a guy who was already a known/registered offender Rabbi Horowitz got sued.
The only way to deal with this appears to be law enforcement and the courts. Victims should be helped, abusers should be reported.
Let's hope that the innocent will be found innocent and only the guilty gets punished.

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Re: Chaim Walder dies
« Reply #819 on: January 03, 2022, 07:43:20 PM »
Many survivors do not say who it was and /or don't want it publicized, because how can you publicize without evidence, which means they need to testify, which they aren't willing /able to do.