Asked a couple of friends. The informal numbers I’m hearing sound like for Lakewood run of the mil learning boy it would range from around $1500 at the lower end (with $1000 being an outlier) to $2500 or more ($3500 is not unheard of) with some even asking for a commitment of 150k-200k down payment on a house when the time comes. The length of support ranges from 3-7 years with some committing to longer or indefinite. Some provide a credit card for additional expenses as well.
Many Klei Kodesh families (quintessential "Rebbe's daughter") have a very hard time because of this "system".
is that between both sides?
Does the shver get a shmitta year?
I don't even understand this. Who is doing the asking? The boys parents? And the whole burden is on the girls parents? If 3-7 years is the norm, it's very reasonable to have 2 or 3 kids on "payroll" at the same time. It seems so wrong to me.
This is such an eye opener to me.
it's good to be a Lubavitcher
If this is as commonplace as some of the posts make it seem, this is a HUGE eye-opener
This is wild. Does anything like this exist among Lubavitchers?
An eye opener? It’s a huge relief to me that I’m not subject to it.
It's a ridiculous system that is anti-Torah and anti-Midos.You can all go and hit the dislike button, but this is the truth.
No, I won't hit the dislike button. In fact I'd hit the like button 100 times, if I could.
Unpopular opinion: if we’re encouraging boys (and girls) to get married at 21-22 or younger, parents should support if they are able. No one wants the alternative where people wait until they are “financially sound” before marrying.