So what I'm getting from all the responses thus far are either give it up until kids get older, do some day trips/one-nighters, find places for the kids with friends and family, sponsor the trip for one or two people in exchange for the babysitting/keeping kids busy, or pay someone to watch kids at home.
I wish my wife and myself didn't need these trips and could just give them up. Maybe there is work we can do to get to that point, but I'm not sure how we can at this point. These recharge us and aren't "extras." Without them, we fall apart. With that, I'm left with shepherding out the kids (which was an option in the past but is currently extremely difficult if not impossible) or sponsoring someone to come along/ paying for someone to watch kids at home. Appreciate all the advice and plan on looking into all this.