Is it the system or those in the system.
If you or @Dan went to PS I would bet the house you would have turned out just fine.
Well it depends on your definition of fine.
This is a very existential argument, that is impossible to prove one way of another.
If I didn't grow up orthodox, would I be orthodox now? I'd like to think so, as I love my life and wouldn't trade it for anything. BUT...
(Basically I can't say I disagree with you per se, but I do if it means forcing parents to teach things they don't want to.)