Will be helpful for me too since YT is blocked.
She tells the story as it unfolded.
The decision for burial in ירושלים due to him being a קדוש so wanted burial in עיר הקודש. She was scared of הר הזיתים and they were promised a full Jewish burial in הר הרצל.
She differentiates between צה"ל who she said was compassionate and kind, to משרד הבטחון which took over the handling after the family was notified of the tragedy, to handle the burial.
She says how they came to her with a standard inscription, from which she insisted to remove place of birth and Gregorian dates and asked to add הי"ד after his name, and was told that it might not get approved. She then got a call a few days later from some bureaucrat that told her that they rejected her request to add הי"ט and she should sign off on the proposed inscription. She said he was extremely disrespectful and ignorant to the level that if he would have only read the news he would have realized that she's insisting on הי"ד and not הי"ט. He said that if she won't sign off then they'll put a blank stone. She said there's no way she's signing off on anything that doesn't include הי"ד right after his name. She had hoped to be surprised when the family went for the shloshim, but was shocked to see that it was indeed blank.
She tells of an anecdote that someone told her of, where the family insisted on putting two mother's names and a father on the stone, and the authorities obliged. She hopes they will eventually come to their senses and agree to put הי"ד after the name, but if the authorities won't allow it, the family will have no choice but to dig up the grave and re-bury elsewhere.
She says there's a list of thousands of families that will have their tombstones amended once the Yudkin family prevails.
She then describes how the IDF doesn't want or need חרדים, with personal information of families where sons enlisted, went through basic training, and have been sitting for weeks or months at home because the IDF has no use for them.