I don't even know what to say to this. I'd tell you to get out more, but you're out plenty. I also respect you too much to call you a liar, so I'm just going to have to assume you meant to say something that I'm not understanding.
We have to determine what sweeping under the rug means, does it mean that when a sensitive sad story happens it's not discussed publicly? Does it mean that when a sensitive sad story happens professional help isn't sought? Taking the current story as an example what would typical sweeping under the rug mean after the fact, and what would it mean before the fact ?
From what I've read here, she was under care for her situation, perhaps she felt societal pressure to bear children, perhaps she herself direly wanted children, who was supposed to stop her? Is there any law or criteria who's allowed to have children? Are doctors legally required to prevent adults in such cases from having children? We clearly value having children a lot more than any other community, and as a result having children is a very core integral part of our society, but do we have a systemic problem? Is our problem relatively greater than in other communities where child bearing isn't top of the list?
I see so many ads, and companies in the tri state area for mental care, so many organizations, so many rebbanim with a great understanding of the situation, I think we've never been so open on the matter. In my opinion she clearly wasn't a Baal bechira at that point. Was she a Baal bechira before having children? Maybe yes maybe no.
Certainly, there are many things we as individuals can learn from, there are many things rebbanim can learn from, however I don't see the indication that this horrific sad story happened as a result of a systemic sweeping under the rug scheme. I believe this is the point
@aygart was trying to make.
