אתו - ולא אמו
My response was regarding the Get Me'use issue. As I pointed above, this could actually be a נחת רוח and כבוד הנפטרת.
Though I will give one caveat, that everything might seem one sided from here, there might be another side to the story which we are unfamiliar with at this point. She might have been blackmailing him. But the bottom line is that if an acceptable Beis Din ruled that he has to give a Get, then they need to be able to enforce it somehow. Tying up your wife for 10 years, while marrying someone else doesn't do any good.