Marry Young / Shidduch Crisis

[PlatinumGuy]

This is a terrible idea, people wouldn't date unless they think it's a perfect shidduchim.

I also don’t think a payment like that is going to really motivate somebody to get married. People won’t be more ready to married if dating is more difficult. There will always be dates available without the money, even if it will be a little bit more complicated.

It’s a process for people to be ready to get married and maybe we can speed it up somehow with the education system, but $2000 isn’t going to sway it.

On top of all the other issues, it would also give people with money an even greater advantage, at the expense of those who won’t be able to afford to date as much

[Dan]

I wanted to share my news. I BH just got engaged!!

For the benefit of the conversations we have had on here, I will say this.
People asked me - oh what's different? Where has he been all these years etc etc.

The only thing that changed is me. Don't get me wrong, he's a great guy, and it was DEFINITLEY the right guy with the right time and right place. But the second half of that sentence is more important.
I did serious work beforehand. I was able to really dig deep, push past my comfort zone, push past my initial 'na he's not for me', push past the image I had in my head etc etc.
I don't think I could've done that with 99% of the guys I dated. But it's no coincidence

Mazel tov!

[yuneeq]

I wanted to share my news. I BH just got engaged!!

Mazal tov!

[yuneeq]

Nu? How was? Is he going to see her again?

Unfortunately he is still single.

But the good news is you can earn $2k if you come up with a good suggestion for him. Or earn even more if you come up with a stream of good-yet-not-good-enough matches.

[drosenberg88429]

I wanted to share my news. I BH just got engaged!!

For the benefit of the conversations we have had on here, I will say this.
People asked me - oh what's different? Where has he been all these years etc etc.

The only thing that changed is me. Don't get me wrong, he's a great guy, and it was DEFINITLEY the right guy with the right time and right place. But the second half of that sentence is more important.
I did serious work beforehand. I was able to really dig deep, push past my comfort zone, push past my initial 'na he's not for me', push past the image I had in my head etc etc.
I don't think I could've done that with 99% of the guys I dated. But it's no coincidence

Wow!!! Mazel tov!!! I'm so happy to hear. That's really amazing. May you have a life of joy, happiness, serenity, fulfillment, plenty, peace of mind, and nachas together. I think your honest analysis is also incredible.

[yerushabubby]

I wanted to share my news. I BH just got engaged!!

For the benefit of the conversations we have had on here, I will say this.
People asked me - oh what's different? Where has he been all these years etc etc.

The only thing that changed is me. Don't get me wrong, he's a great guy, and it was DEFINITLEY the right guy with the right time and right place. But the second half of that sentence is more important.
I did serious work beforehand. I was able to really dig deep, push past my comfort zone, push past my initial 'na he's not for me', push past the image I had in my head etc etc.
I don't think I could've done that with 99% of the guys I dated. But it's no coincidence

A tremendous Mazel Tov! May you be zocheh to recognize all the Tov that HaShem gives you in this, and every aspect of your lives together!

[pbf]

Thank you all!!

[Moshe123]

I wanted to share my news. I BH just got engaged!!

For the benefit of the conversations we have had on here, I will say this.
People asked me - oh what's different? Where has he been all these years etc etc.

The only thing that changed is me. Don't get me wrong, he's a great guy, and it was DEFINITLEY the right guy with the right time and right place. But the second half of that sentence is more important.
I did serious work beforehand. I was able to really dig deep, push past my comfort zone, push past my initial 'na he's not for me', push past the image I had in my head etc etc.
I don't think I could've done that with 99% of the guys I dated. But it's no coincidence

Mazel Tov!

[Yikes2179]

I wanted to share my news. I BH just got engaged!!

For the benefit of the conversations we have had on here, I will say this.
People asked me - oh what's different? Where has he been all these years etc etc.

The only thing that changed is me. Don't get me wrong, he's a great guy, and it was DEFINITLEY the right guy with the right time and right place. But the second half of that sentence is more important.
I did serious work beforehand. I was able to really dig deep, push past my comfort zone, push past my initial 'na he's not for me', push past the image I had in my head etc etc.
I don't think I could've done that with 99% of the guys I dated. But it's no coincidence

Mazal Tov!

[keemster26]

Mazal Tov!!!

[AsherO]

I wanted to share my news. I BH just got engaged!!

For the benefit of the conversations we have had on here, I will say this.
People asked me - oh what's different? Where has he been all these years etc etc.

The only thing that changed is me. Don't get me wrong, he's a great guy, and it was DEFINITLEY the right guy with the right time and right place. But the second half of that sentence is more important.
I did serious work beforehand. I was able to really dig deep, push past my comfort zone, push past my initial 'na he's not for me', push past the image I had in my head etc etc.
I don't think I could've done that with 99% of the guys I dated. But it's no coincidence

Mazal Tov!

[imayid2]

https://thelakewoodscoop.com/news/breaking-major-freezer-breakthrough-discussed-by-american-delegation-on-shidduch-crisis-mission-in-eretz-yisroel/

[avromie7]

https://thelakewoodscoop.com/news/breaking-major-freezer-breakthrough-discussed-by-american-delegation-on-shidduch-crisis-mission-in-eretz-yisroel/

Why doesn't it specify any yeshivas?

[Randomex]

(Note the URL's inclusion of "/promotions" - this is paid-for content.)

https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/promotions/2202856/yismach-revolutionizes-shidduchim-with-cutting-edge-artificial-intelligence-ai-technology.html

[JMHO]

Why doesn't it specify any yeshivas?

Because TLS won't acknowledge the largest Yeshiva of all - BMG...

[Yosel]

אם חז״ל אומרים, בן  שמונה עשרה לחופה ,
Why do we need meetings???
Never understood.

[Moshe123]

אם חז״ל אומרים, בן  שמונה עשרה לחופה ,
Why do we need meetings???
Never understood.

Slowly coming back to the roots.
מען האט פארדרייט די תורה.

[jew]

אם חז״ל אומרים, בן  שמונה עשרה לחופה ,
Why do we need meetings???
Never understood.

What age do we start גמרא?

[mevinyavin]

Slowly coming back to the roots.
מען האט פארדרייט די תורה.

Meinyan leinyan b'oso inyan...
I remember when I went back to the states to date, there was a full page ad signed by all the American gedolim promising your shidduch to come quickly if you would go out with "older girls." (This was not clearly defined.) It really tickled my funny bone at the time - imagine agreeing to go out with your zivug instead of rejecting it due to chitzonius! (That's what I thought then.) I didn't have that problem - the first girl I went out with was older than me and from divorced parents, and I said to myself that this is external and not proof of anything.
Lemaaseh the joke was on me, because six months from my first date, I was married (not engaged, married). To an eighteen year old. (I actually didn't know this - I thought she was older until after we got engaged.) A zivug is a zivug, and the beracha was mekuyem. 

[yawn]

Because TLS won't acknowledge the largest Yeshiva of all - BMG...

Wonder how they'll cover it if, as expected, BMG ends up being the actual force behind this movement and A. abolishes the freezer and B. imposes a cutoff of 5th year Sukkos to enroll in Yeshiva.