OK, so I finally met and spoke to the actual owner of the car and she's totally cool if I just buy her a touch-up paint kit and calling it even.
By the way....just thought of something. As crazy as it sounds, you may actually want to get her to sign a waiver when you give her the touch up paint (and you should find that cop, if possible, and keep his statement in your files).
My wife and I were once hit by a cab in NYC -- totally his fault as he pulled away from the curb without looking, and hit us as we drove along the right lane. His dispatch company apologized profusely, the drive apologized ANS was issued a summons for an expired hack license, the dispatch co offered to fix our car in their body shop which they own (which we did), end of story. Until we got a letter suing us six months later...