You guys don't see the difference? Neither do I.
It's not about not seeing the difference, it's about being able to understand what you actually said or meant to say. Let me requote what you wrote, so you see where we have a difficulty understanding you.
That [did you mean to write then?] instead of speaking to someone who really understands it [in most languages that I understand that would mean: rather than speaking to someone who has a real understanding of the subject matter, implying that that is something the person you are addressing shouldn't do] you should then speak to someone who really understands it you offer the "correct" alternative of "then" speaking to someone who has real understanding of the subject matter - seemingly the same alternative, so where's the alternative???.
I think that it's OK to express oneself in Yiddish or Hebrew in these forums, there are enough people here well versed in 3 or more languages (myself included) that could translate as a public service. Most people here also understand Yinglish, but I really had a very hard time understanding what you were/are trying to say.
With your followup post, you were very clear in your intent, and it makes a lot of sense. For obvious reason only limited information is posted, but the more the question and some responses are out there, the better of a chance you have to get to where you need to, either with the limited info posted publicly, or via PM.
