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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #15 on: January 03, 2013, 07:02:36 PM »
I've taken a look around and noticed couples who had one child right after marriage and then waited a looong time before having another. Is this due to the jarring reality of having children?
FYI there is something called "secondary infertility."

Not necessarily is it by choice that a couple "waited a looong time before having another."

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #16 on: January 03, 2013, 07:08:13 PM »
FYI there is something called "secondary infertility."

Not necessarily is it by choice that a couple "waited a looong time before having another."
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #17 on: January 03, 2013, 07:12:58 PM »
FYI there is something called "secondary infertility."

Not necessarily is it by choice that a couple "waited a looong time before having another."

Seems to be happening to lots of my friends,  ::)
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #18 on: January 03, 2013, 07:29:56 PM »
Why am I always on the other side of the fence?
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #19 on: January 03, 2013, 07:31:04 PM »
Why am I always on the other side of the fence?
Which side is that? It is probably because you have a different background than most members. (A non cynical answer is very rare for me)
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #20 on: January 03, 2013, 07:34:01 PM »
Who was the נביא who didn't want to have kids because of inhertided disabilities?
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #21 on: January 03, 2013, 07:35:12 PM »
Which side is that? It is probably because you have a different background than most members. (A non cynical answer is very rare for me)
I don't think kids are a problem.
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #22 on: January 03, 2013, 07:35:46 PM »
I don't think kids are a problem.
How old were you when you got married and when first had kids if you don't mind my asking?
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #23 on: January 03, 2013, 07:37:22 PM »
I don't think kids are a problem.
Got ya. Well I can not have an opinion on this topic as I don't have kids. Do you think your kids were easy to raise? Did you always feel this way or now that they are grown up? Also it probably makes a difference as to how much your wife does verse you do.
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #24 on: January 03, 2013, 07:38:39 PM »
How old were you when you got married and when first had kids if you don't mind my asking?
I see where you are coming from. I was 31 and first child about 2 years later.
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Re: Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #25 on: January 03, 2013, 07:38:57 PM »
Also it probably makes a difference as to how much your wife does verse you do.

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #26 on: January 03, 2013, 07:40:47 PM »
Having a wife at home and being financially comfortable also helps a lot.
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #27 on: January 03, 2013, 07:47:06 PM »
I see where you are coming from. I was 31 and first child about 2 years later.
Bingo :)

Typical guy on this forum is probably married with kids by 25.
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #28 on: January 03, 2013, 07:48:48 PM »
I have a bunch of kids, and had them relatively close together, another due soon be"H.
Its tough, but exponentially gets easier. And then the big kids help out with the small ones.
I will say that we fly quite a bit, and 16 hour flights as well. I don't look forward to it, but I wouldn't call it impossible.
I wouldn't minimize the frustration of the OP, but from a purely gashmius point of view - the Nachas is worth the effort.
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #29 on: January 03, 2013, 07:49:04 PM »
Bingo :)

Typical guy on this forum is probably married with kids by 25.
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