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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #195 on: January 06, 2013, 12:11:54 PM »
What I do think is that the OP is trying to point out that having children is not easy, and this is something that a 22-25 year old might not have even thought of before getting married, and then it comes as somewhat of a shock to them and is somewhat unexpected.

Everyone is saying that having children is/could be difficult and is definitely rewarding, and I dont think the OP is disagreeing with that fact.


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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #196 on: January 06, 2013, 12:13:57 PM »
The 5 seems about right (a lot). I hope you are kidding about 15.
I dont know where SI is from, but the bigger families in a lot of communities 12 or so is normal, so then 15 would be whats called a lot

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #197 on: January 06, 2013, 12:16:56 PM »
The 5 seems about right (a lot). I hope you are kidding about 15.
15 definitely happens in some communities (personally know at least 3 families with 15+)
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #198 on: January 06, 2013, 12:19:20 PM »
I know 2 families with 16.
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #199 on: January 06, 2013, 12:21:34 PM »
in 15+ i included one family with 18
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #200 on: January 06, 2013, 12:30:55 PM »
Second kid throwing up in three nights. Gross

I feel for you  :'(

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #201 on: January 06, 2013, 12:41:13 PM »
I feel for you  :'(


a little kids throwup evokes a crying emoticon for the fathers troubles?  really?    take a long look in the mirror, man   cuz you are one self centered dude.    with that kind of attitude i can't imagine you have very healthy relationships with anybody that require giving on your part.  go speak to a professional.

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #202 on: January 06, 2013, 12:46:21 PM »
I dont know where SI is from, but the bigger families in a lot of communities 12 or so is normal, so then 15 would be whats called a lot
15 definitely happens in some communities (personally know at least 3 families with 15+)
I know 2 families with 16.
I hope the community does not promote this or thinks it is normal. For the record I assume we are talking about a Jewish community but my position would be the same if it was Irish, Hispanic or any other community.
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #203 on: January 06, 2013, 01:02:09 PM »
I hope the community does not promote this or thinks it is normal. For the record I assume we are talking about a Jewish community but my position would be the same if it was Irish, Hispanic or any other community.
Knowing 2 families of 16 or 3 of 15 doesn't at all represent what is 'promoted'. From the many hundreds of families that I know I only know of 1 or 2 over 12.

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #204 on: January 06, 2013, 01:02:57 PM »
I hope the community does not promote this or thinks it is normal.
why not?   who are you to define what's normal and healthy for any given community?

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #205 on: January 06, 2013, 01:08:33 PM »
Knowing 2 families of 16 or 3 of 15 doesn't at all represent what is 'promoted'. From the many hundreds of families that I know I only know of 1 or 2 over 12.
+1 Didn't say it was the norm, though the norm is definitely bigger than the norm in the rest of America.
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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #206 on: January 06, 2013, 01:10:03 PM »
why not?   who are you to define what's normal and healthy for any given community?
I guess no one should give their opinion?

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #207 on: January 06, 2013, 01:12:55 PM »
I guess no one should give their opinion?
who said anything about not giving your opinion?     i asked you what your opinion is based on.    if it's based on nothing (as so far you've provided nothing), then maybe you should qualify it.  wouldn't want to confuse anybody into thinking you were coming from a position of knowledge when it wasn't

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #208 on: January 06, 2013, 01:25:19 PM »
a little kids throwup evokes a crying emoticon for the fathers troubles?  really?    take a long look in the mirror, man   cuz you are one self centered dude.    with that kind of attitude i can't imagine you have very healthy relationships with anybody that require giving on your part.  go speak to a professional.

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Re: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial
« Reply #209 on: January 06, 2013, 01:25:53 PM »
I hope the community does not promote this or thinks it is normal. For the record I assume we are talking about a Jewish community but my position would be the same if it was Irish, Hispanic or any other community.

"Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and conquer it" (Gen. 1:28), some take that literally. With today's technology there are more than 3x the amount of people compared to 50 years ago, and less people living in poverty. And technology is only getting better. Also, most of the population that will be alive in 2050 (when world population is expected to peak at 10 billion) are already alive.

Personally, my neighbor is one of 17 (ka"h) IIRC, and he's a normal guy with 4 (ka"h) kids of his own.
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