Author Topic: The truth about children - Warning: Controversial (Read 121097 times)

Ergel · « **Reply #460 on:** September 03, 2013, 06:04:04 PM »

The finances and travel are the one thing slanted in the girl'a favor. Every other part of the system favors the boy. I'm sure every girl would trade that I'm a heartbeat

Dan · « **Reply #461 on:** September 03, 2013, 06:07:56 PM »

Quote from: Ergel on September 03, 2013, 06:04:04 PM

Every other part of the system favors the boy.

Besides for there supposedly being more boys than girls for reasons nobody can fully explain, what else?

Ergel · « **Reply #462 on:** September 03, 2013, 06:13:07 PM »

Quote from: Dan on September 03, 2013, 06:07:56 PM

Besides for there supposedly being more boys than girls for reasons nobody can fully explain, what else?

Every half decent guy I know has a list from here till next year. I know many a very good girl who can't get a date

aygart · « **Reply #463 on:** September 03, 2013, 06:17:29 PM »

Quote from: SamKey on September 03, 2013, 05:16:46 PM

Goyishe Musagim

Mi chozer al mi.......

Dan · « **Reply #464 on:** September 03, 2013, 06:21:11 PM »

Maybe if girls shared in the financial onus of dating then it wouldn't be so hard to get a date?

Ergel · « **Reply #465 on:** September 03, 2013, 06:25:25 PM »

Quote from: Dan on September 03, 2013, 06:21:11 PM

Maybe if girls shared in the financial onus of dating then it wouldn't be so hard to get a date?

Definitely not in my world

whYME · « **Reply #466 on:** September 03, 2013, 06:55:00 PM »

Quote from: Dan on September 03, 2013, 06:07:56 PM

Besides for there supposedly being more boys than girls for reasons nobody can fully explain, what else?

The fact that the boys generally get married a few years older than the girls seems like a valid explanation to me...
(I saw a blog post once were someone did the math, I don't remember what it was but it seemed to make sense at the time)

Dan · « **Reply #467 on:** September 03, 2013, 06:58:02 PM »

Link? Why doesn't it ever even out?

bubbles · « **Reply #468 on:** September 03, 2013, 06:58:11 PM »

Quote from: whYME on September 03, 2013, 06:55:00 PM

The fact that the boys generally get married a few years older than the girls seems like a valid explanation to me...
(I saw a blog post once were someone did the math, I don't remember what it was but it seemed to make sense at the time)

Meh, there are more boys than girls born.

Quote from: Dan on September 03, 2013, 06:58:02 PM

Link? Why doesn't it ever even out?

Though the concept is that every year there are more kids being born due to population growth. Therefor if the girls from 1995 start dating now and the boys from 1992 there will be a slight discrepancy.

CountValentine · « **Reply #469 on:** September 03, 2013, 07:03:24 PM »

Quote from: Ergel on September 03, 2013, 06:25:25 PM

Definitely not in my world

...or any world I know of. Here is a tip for anyone starting to date. If the girl wants to pay RUN FOREST RUN!!!

aygart · « **Reply #470 on:** September 03, 2013, 07:09:02 PM »

Quote from: whYME on September 03, 2013, 06:55:00 PM

The fact that the boys generally get married a few years older than the girls seems like a valid explanation to me...
(I saw a blog post once were someone did the math, I don't remember what it was but it seemed to make sense at the time)

Speak to a demographer and see if they agree with this calculation. There are many factors involved. For that matter, see if they agree that there is an issue in the first place. The whole issue is ONLY anecdotal.

whYME · « **Reply #471 on:** September 03, 2013, 07:16:38 PM »

Quote from: Dan on September 03, 2013, 06:58:02 PM

Link?

It seems I misremembered, I seem to remember it having been a more thorough calculation...
Anyways, here it is: http://muqata.blogspot.com/2010/03/finally-scientific-explanation-of.html

bubbles · « **Reply #472 on:** September 03, 2013, 07:43:00 PM »

Quote from: whYME on September 03, 2013, 07:16:38 PM

It seems I misremembered, I seem to remember it having been a more thorough calculation...
Anyways, here it is: http://muqata.blogspot.com/2010/03/finally-scientific-explanation-of.html

Quote from: bubbles on September 03, 2013, 06:58:11 PM

Meh, there are more boys than girls born.
Though the concept is that every year there are more kids being born due to population growth. Therefor if the girls from 1995 start dating now and the boys from 1992 there will be a slight discrepancy.

churnbabychurn · « **Reply #473 on:** September 03, 2013, 07:59:26 PM »

Quote from: Dan on September 03, 2013, 06:58:02 PM

Link? Why doesn't it ever even out?

cuz the community is growing rapidly

Chaikel · « **Reply #474 on:** September 03, 2013, 08:13:06 PM »

Quote from: Dan on September 03, 2013, 04:06:05 PM

I tell people that ask me that they should never bail after one date. It takes most people longer than that to warm up to someone and show their true self. Especially if they're new to the shidduch dating scene.

IMO there is a reason that nearly every "older" single girl, also happens to have been saying "no" to nearly every guy after 1 date

yehuda S · « **Reply #475 on:** September 03, 2013, 08:23:16 PM »

There is no good solution to this problem. Think about it. If there are 50 boys and 60 girls and the following year 55 boys and 65 girls the only way to have them all get married is through polygamy. And it's highly dubious that will ever happen.

There is no other way to even out a disparity in numbers.

If people start marrying someone their own age that will just leave a zillion single women in this generation and don't expect the ladies to sacrifice themselves for the ladies of the next generation.

Achas Veachas · « **Reply #476 on:** September 03, 2013, 08:24:55 PM »

True, reducing the age gap won't solve the problem, it will however stop it from growing as fast...

aygart · « **Reply #477 on:** September 03, 2013, 09:12:59 PM »

In previous generations many more women died in childbirth and therefore their husbands ended up taking a second wife. In that case Obamacare is c"v the solution.

meshugener · « **Reply #478 on:** September 03, 2013, 10:25:06 PM »

What I don't understand, why would a 23yr old boy rather date an 18yr old girl?
Do you want to marry someone less mature than you are?
(CCMIIW, but isn't that the core of the problem?)

In my circles, the boy and the girl are usually in the same age range.

CountValentine · « **Reply #479 on:** September 04, 2013, 12:26:03 AM »

Quote from: meshugener on September 03, 2013, 10:25:06 PM

Do you want to marry someone less mature than you are?

...and what does that have to do with age?