First year of marriage

[jj1000]

I found this article refreshing seeing someone speaking so open. What do people say is this article spot on or BS?

http://ladymamale.blogspot.com/2013/01/what-to-expect-first-year-of-marriage_8105.html?m=1

[Achas Veachas]

A bit over dramatized but then again it is prefaced by a:

SO WHAT EXACTLY HAPPENS?
THE FIRST YEAR: A DRAMATIZATION

Overall if you cut back on the drama you get a picture of what its probably like but stick it out to the end:

The good news is, of course, that the unity and love that comes from rising to the occasion of getting to know the person you didn't intend to marry is a pleasure far greater than even the most perfect courtship. Marriage, however hard, will always trump the lustful stage of dating. Okay what do I know, my own marriage is still young. But however much I have to learn, I know this: the key is being lovingly committed to your spouse....and forgetting all expectations.

[YankyDoodle]

I found this article refreshing seeing someone speaking so open. What do people say is this article spot on or BS?

http://ladymamale.blogspot.com/2013/01/what-to-expect-first-year-of-marriage_8105.html?m=1

Interesting read. I personally found having a baby to be a much more life-altering (what-the-heck-did-we-get-ourselves-into) event of the magnitude she describes. Whereas the first year was actually way beyond what I expected. I suppose YMMV (your marriage may vary).

[AJK]

Interesting read. I personally found having a baby to be a much more life-altering (what-the-heck-did-we-get-ourselves-into) event of the magnitude she describes. Whereas the first year was actually way beyond what I expected. I suppose YMMV (your marriage may vary).

+1, agree with everything you said (though I can only "prospectively agree" with respect to the having a baby part).

[sky121]

I would say it's also going to be quite a bit different from the ladies point of view than the mens.

[HelpMe]

I don’t remember my first year being anything like that.

[sky121]

I don’t remember my first year being anything like that.

Didn't you mention you had know your wife for years prior to getting married? That helps I'm sure.

[yehuda S]

Interesting read. I personally found having a baby to be a much more life-altering (what-the-heck-did-we-get-ourselves-into) event of the magnitude she describes.

I think this has been mentioned before on the forum.   

http://forums.dansdeals.com/index.php?topic=23873.msg380003#msg380003

You'd better be careful or you'll get jumped on like I did

[HelpMe]

Didn't you mention you had know your wife for years prior to getting married? That helps I'm sure.

+1000

[HelpMe]

You'd better be careful or you'll get jumped on like I did

That thread got out of hand.

[sky121]

Personally I think the hardest thing for people to deal with is the 'disappointment' from what you thought you were "getting" to what you "got". The actual things you deal with (for most people ) aren't so bad. It's the 'disappointment' that's hard to get over.

The adjusting to living with another person isn't what really makes it hard. Its the emotional part of it.


And if you've known the person for years before marriage hopefully you have a better idea of what you're getting and just have to deal with the adjustments of actually living together.

#my2cents

[Chaikel]

I don’t remember my first year being anything like that.

+100

[sky121]

It would be nice to read the same article  topic written by the authors husband.

[HelpMe]

And if you've known the person for years before marriage hopefully you have a better idea of what you're getting and just have to deal with the adjustments of actually living together.

#my2cents

+100

#add98cents

Did I really just use a hashtag? 

[sky121]

+100

#add98cents

Did I really just use a hashtag? 

Lol.

[yare]

And if you've known the person for years before marriage hopefully you have a better idea of what you're getting and just have to deal with the adjustments of actually living together.

#my2cents

-1
that's a myth.   marriage changes everything, no matter how long you've known each other.      couples that lived together for years and then got married get divorced left and right.       don't believe the hype.

[AJK]

marriage changes everything, no matter how long you've known each other.     

Agree.

[sky121]

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that's a myth.   marriage changes everything, no matter how long you've known each other.      couples that lived together for years and then got married get divorced left and right.       don't believe the hype.

I agree with that statement. I wasn't saying the opposite.

[HelpMe]

-1
that's a myth.   marriage changes everything, no matter how long you've known each other.      couples that lived together for years and then got married get divorced left and right.       don't believe the hype.

Agree.

I guess you are experts in this field. 

[Achas Veachas]

-1
that's a myth.   marriage changes everything, no matter how long you've known each other.      couples that lived together for years and then got married get divorced left and right.       don't believe the hype.

Might be true but it definitely takes off the edge and the awkwardness of Sheva Brachos.