Nice comparison.
#1 I hope you didn't think that I was really trying to compare a d'oiriesa to making a kidish, just I thought that making a kidish for a baby girl is something that everybody does and it has strong m'koires so I thought that anybody who says that you don't don't have to make a kidish that it comes from total ignorance therefore I compared it to a bris.
But I see now that I wasn't that right ( I don't have girls yet so I never reviewed this subject ),
I did some searching and I found this one, it's from שו"ת נשמת שבת, לר' ישראל דוד הארפנס, here's a photo of it.