My beef is with our focus. Dishonesty in business is a clear Toeva. I've heard from too many businessman that they dread doing business with other Frum people. I doubt I'm alone. Where is the protest and uproar? These are Deoraissah's being committed daily by Frum people. Instead, we focus on aveiros being committed by those outside our community.
Similarly, we have Frum adults being over on Toeva with children. Instead of doing all we can to stop this, we terrorize the victim and his family.
People dread certain frum businessmen bc of their attitude, not because of dishonesty. In fact most business people will tell you its much easier to rely on frum jews.
I don't believe there are more scams in the frum world, but definitely people are undereducated and scammers can get away with schemes that wouldn't last a day anywhere else. (I mean seriously, buying a $50000 house without knowing anything at all?)
Nobody terrorizes victims. What is not being done when you say we're not doing everything we can? The fact of the matter is that going public isn't always the best solution.
And finally nobody cares that they live with each other. We're not talking about legalizing the maisa toeva itself. We're not trying to tell them what to do or to worry about their aveiros. The issue we have is a society accepting a form of living which the torah considers (at least in certain ways) worst than adultery. How are you going to tell your kids that's not marriage, when the NYC mayor is so 'married'?