That point isn't relatively correct. Outside NY the communities have less fighting when measured in real numbers, of course, but that is simply because they have significantly less people to fight with and between. But I would say they -- proportionally -- have just as much fighting. But of course it doesn't hit the news and blogs nearly as much, simply because smaller scales don't make as much sport for the baalei loshon hora.
Same idea with the hechseirim, schools and other organizations. OOT they simply cannot support more than one in most communities.
You clearly never lived in a "small town" community before, and I feel stupid arguing when you keep saying whatever fits your opinion, to justify your argument.
And I said what I want to see in a community, I know.for sure it is not NY. If you want to go through other communities that would be a new and productive conversation which is the point of this thread.
Fact is people being close together in a physical sense causes tention and fighting. There have been many experiments to this point. And is a basis for low crime rates in rural areas verse urban areas. And those percentages of lower crime are just that percentages proportionate to each cities size.
I think the same can apply to the fighting and controversy in the Jewish frum communities of NY verse out of town communities.
