Master Thread of Pet Peeves

[yesitsme]

Started answering with technicalities and then I changed it to this: I’m not a posek, so do your own research, but the fact that they didn’t repay the loan does not qualify them for ma’aser money.

When I said Tzedaka I meant your ma’aser tezedaka which is what OP said. Whether there’s a true halachic difference is another conversation.

Difference between Tzedaka and Maaser.

Many people have the custom to give Maaser Kesafim, one tenth of one’s income, to Tzedaka.
Maaser differs from the classic obligation to give Tzedaka in a number of ways:

1) Tzedaka is based on needs; one is only obligated to give Tzedaka if there are paupers that require assistance. In contrast, the custom to separate Maaser applies even if there are no current needs.
2) Tzedaka is fulfilled simply by giving money to paupers. In contrast, many Poskim maintain that one must calculate his exact profits, and separate precisely one-tenth to properly fulfill the custom of Maaser.
3) The amount of Tzedaka one is obligated to give is based on his assets. In contrast, Maaser is based on his income.
4) Tzedaka applies only to funds given to the poor. In contrast, some people use Maaser funds for other Mitzvah purposes.

[S209]

I am shocked. Wouldn't expect that from you.

+1. But it’s possible he was joking.

[S209]

You were just saying differences or making a point? Which of this counts? This counts as Mitzva purposes, lending money to a friend who forgot to pay back and you’re too embarrassed to ask for it back? Please be my friend!

To be clear, I was commenting on the assumption that you can deduct from ma’aser the money you feel awkward to recoup. I wasn’t questioning the misappropriation of ma’aser funds in the initial loan.

[ChaimMoskowitz]

I am shocked. Wouldn't expect that from you.

+1. But it’s possible he was joking.

I am dead serious. You want background?

[ExGingi]

I am dead serious. You want background?

Feel free to spill the beans.

[ChaimMoskowitz]

Feel free to spill the beans.

Payday is Friday. On Monday they want to borrow $1 for a cigarette or a couple of bucks for the bus. Then want to pay me back in two weeks after payday. No problem. You don't pay me back then don't ever ask me again. It is not my place to remind you. 

[ExGingi]

Payday is Friday. On Monday they want to borrow $1 for a cigarette or a couple of bucks for the bus. Then want to pay me back in two weeks after payday. No problem. You don't pay me back then don't ever ask me again. It is not my place to remind you. 

Wow. So if someone is that destitute that they need to borrow a small amount and pay you back two weeks after payday, you would actually want to be paid back rather than just having mercy on the guy?

I specifically approached a person who did not pay me back, and seemed to be avoiding me, that he shouldn't hesitate to ask again. It so happened, that the next time he asked I didn't have what he asked for available, but at least I didn't want him to feel that he needs to avoid me or be ashamed of me. I counted the money given to him out of my Ma'aser.

[ChaimMoskowitz]

Wow. So if someone is that destitute that they need to borrow a small amount and pay you back two weeks after payday, you would actually want to be paid back rather than just having mercy on the guy?

Destitute? That is some funny stuff. This is the same guy that has a new car every six months. Racks it up, is without a car for a few weeks, then buys a new one. Not sure if he ever had a car long enough where the temp plates expired. 
Do you remember where I worked? 

[S209]

Wow. So if someone is that destitute that they need to borrow a small amount and pay you back two weeks after payday, you would actually want to be paid back rather than just having mercy on the guy?

I specifically approached a person who did not pay me back, and seemed to be avoiding me, that he shouldn't hesitate to ask again. It so happened, that the next time he asked I didn't have what he asked for available, but at least I didn't want him to feel that he needs to avoid me or be ashamed of me. I counted the money given to him out of my Ma'aser.

That’s valid

[Zevi16]

One day-Sunday
2 days - Wednesday

[ExGingi]

One day-Sunday
2 days - Wednesday

Yup. I had that and chatted with customer service, who told me to order one day and credited the shipping charge.

[as2]

One day-Sunday
2 days - Wednesday

Hate that!

[shulem92]

gum in urinals

[as2]

gum in urinals

Agreed. Throws off the taste.

[ChaimMoskowitz]

gum in urinals

Probably going to regret this but why?

[S209]

Probably going to regret this but why?

You’re trying to hear yourself and there’s this annoying crackling sound..

Agreed. Throws off the taste.

[yitzgar]

Probably going to regret this but why?

As a female, you wouldn't understand

[shulem92]

Probably going to regret this but why?

because gum does not, contrary to popular belief, disintegrate. it really annoys me that people spit out their gum in urinals, where it will likely remain for a year or 2

[ChaimMoskowitz]

As a female, you wouldn't understand

I have been known to go both ways.

[yitzgar]

because gum does not, contrary to popular belief, disintegrate. it really annoys me that people spit out their gum in urinals, where it will likely remain for a year or 2

So the actual pet peeves is urinals that aren't cleaned for a couple of years