just for the record i never said i understand ,just that i dont see loshon hara in your comment. (and i am allergic to people who always see loshon hara and bein adam lachaveiro problems whenever somebody mentions yiddishkeit.)
my personal opinion according to the limited facts that i know is that there is a general consensus of rabbonim about how to do things in the neighborhood. that way of doing things might not work for you ,it doesn't work for me either, thats why i dont live there. i grew up there and when i visit i never eat from the vaad establishments. thats my perogative i can do what what i want .but if the decision of the local rabbonim is that this is whats right for the greater good of the community you have 2 choices ,1- shut up 2- get out .
I chose to get out.
Thanks for clarifying.
The facts you have are not accurate though. The Five Towns is not what it used to be, as noted in other posts. Now there are now many Rabonim with many followers across the spectrum. Years ago, Siach Yitzchok was a tiny cheder, now it's a quite large Cheder. Same for BBY. There is also a quite large group who sends their children to Brooklyn for school, especially High School.
There is no "consensus amongst the Rabonim", as you indicated. There is a consensus amongst a group of Rabonim, whose followers happen to be more active and vocal on social media.
However, there is quite a large group who follow other local Rabonim who are of great stature too. They don't use social media, and these Rabbis, Roshei Kollel, and Roshei Yeshiva keep there opinions with their followers.
Just because they don't publicize them, does not mean they don't count.
Just as I understand the Vaad Rabonim's followers could and should follow their Rabonim, they need to understand those on the "right" with different hashkofos need to, and should be able to follow theirs without being bullied. When they have their own "lists", or want to make their own Vaadim, let them!
A prominent Rosh HaYeshiva in town told me he told his talmidim not to eat by a certain establishment for whatever reason. Word got out. He got a call from another Rabbi in town who yelled at him, threatened him, and told him he must retract.
Let each group follow their Rabbis with their standards. We are a diverse crowd and do not need to be, or want to be the same. We all serve Hashem in our own unique way.