DW and I were both targeted for upgrade offers from HH surpass to aspire.
I arbitrarily opted to upgrade my card but not hers, and I've since completed the spend and received the bonus.
Now that the offer has expired, I notice that DW is only a few $k short of $60k spend in 2019 -- meaning that she could've received an extra weekend night upon hitting $60k (whereas I've only spent ~$20k on the card).
Hopefully they'll re-target her before 2019 ends.