I don't think you understood my point at all. The worms are all out of the can and this is the next Rubashkin. If you start a sentence "The rabbis" you are indicating that you have no scope as to how vast the spectrum of "Rabbis" is.
fully aware -- the vast scope of the "rabbis" spectrum is huge....
it's big, it's deep, old, and sometimes dirty or dishonest.
these particular rabbis may be a narrower segment of the huge spectrum,
and from experience seeing the molestors, the thieves, that get away with stuff...
often some rabbis are looking at other unrelated factors in their decision making
(such as what will publicly reflect on them, and what public response by outsiders may happen down the road -
leaving Kollel/getting a job/the Truth coming out)
more than what is best for the specific, actual people involved - Father, Mother, Child.
Regarding the get, you are right, על תנאי, in Halacha is apparently the connection to the terms of the get itself, not the תנאי of the action of giving of it...
(So, the consensus seems to be that her "currency" is she's the mother and wants her child
and his "currency" is he's the father and will only give the 'get' when his conditions are met.)
Here, her power tool is that she's the child's mother,
and his power tool is that he can hold onto the get as long as his conditions are met --
but the rabbis I spoke to said that
the get is not supposed to be a power tool Some would say it's Fair and some say it's Imbalanced...
i don't know additional details in this case - so that's it - Hope it ends soon...