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Re: another get story..
« Reply #315 on: February 09, 2014, 12:12:34 PM »
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Re: another get story..
« Reply #316 on: February 09, 2014, 12:13:16 PM »
prenups are against halachah!
Wow that's a real blank statement which isn't true. I personally didn't sign one but there are plenty of rabbonim who hold of it.


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Re: another get story..
« Reply #317 on: February 09, 2014, 12:13:26 PM »
@ybeeds trust me I've got a lot to say, if you insist I can try to find a heter :)

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #318 on: February 09, 2014, 12:14:48 PM »

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #319 on: February 09, 2014, 12:16:50 PM »

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #320 on: February 09, 2014, 12:55:59 PM »
Why the need to respond to it the way you did. There are rabbonim who support it. There are rabbonim against.
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Many Rabbonim approve of this. Many are Orthodox. Many are Chabad. This is halachically acceptable prior to a kosher wedding.
Wow that's a real blank statement which isn't true. I personally didn't sign one but there are plenty of rabbonim who hold of it.
+1
totally..
For what its worth, the "prenup" is ridiculous.  (disregarding the  halachic implications and issues with messing around with gittin and kiddushin)

You actually signed that if your wife decides to leave you, for what ever reason, you are automatically obligated to pay her $150 a day.  Why would you do this?
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not at all..
It just says that when a couple becomes separated, living is diff residences, or legally/civilly divorced, and the spouse still refuses to give a get after the divorce, at that time, the $150/day is imposed to avoid making the 'get' a power tool.

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #321 on: February 09, 2014, 01:02:24 PM »
Quote from: BigDanFan link=topic=33919.msg1#msg1
It just says that when a couple becomes separated, living is diff residences, or legally/civilly divorced, and the spouse still refuses to give a get after the divorce, at that time, the $150/day is imposed to avoid making the 'get' a power tool.
Hmm.. what about when it becomes a he says she says?
He says im willing to give a get ASAP if you agree to ABC and she says im willing to accept the get ASAP only if ABC dont apply and we agree to DEF? Who pays who the money?

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #322 on: February 09, 2014, 01:10:10 PM »
Hmm.. what about when it becomes a he says she says?
He says im willing to give a get ASAP if you agree to ABC and she says im willing to accept the get ASAP only if ABC dont apply and we agree to DEF? Who pays who the money?
the same he says/she says applies in the legal world, as well. That's why the Beth Din of America documents
include the 3rd parties that the couple will go to if there is a problem.

I don't like that this gives the BDA the powers of 'binding arbitration', but it looks like any 3rd party can be appointed in their place in the doc.
http://www.theprenup.org/pdf/Prenup_Standard.pdf

PS - This whole thing is horrible to look at/read, however, considering what we all witnessed for the past year
in the NY Post, this looks like it will prevent that from happening.
Or, perhaps even more common, it can prevent the husband from thinking to declare to the wife,
"I don't care..., I'll never give you a get."
That can be so terrifying for any lady to hear, she may feel imprisoned/stuck for life. Maybe this doc will give them an even, balanced approach.