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Re: another get story..
« Reply #75 on: November 08, 2013, 04:32:17 AM »
+1 Well said.

I agree.

But if it's here. I try to stick, if possible to the truth, or at least people should know how it looks in real life.


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Re: another get story..
« Reply #76 on: November 08, 2013, 05:03:34 AM »
I agree.

But if it's here. I try to stick, if possible to the truth, or at least people should know how it looks in real life.
you have no idea what the truth is, neither do I.
Let's end the speculations and guesses here.

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #77 on: November 08, 2013, 07:30:24 AM »
I still think that we should not discuss these issues here. What do we gain from lashon hara etc. which here also involves lashon hara against Rabanim? This is not a "blog" where all is muttar, freedom of speech, zchus hatzibur ladaat, chillul Hashem r"l, like some other "Yeshivish" blogs. Adaraba, DDF has become a forum and platform of Kiddush Hashem and Ohr la'amim, a source of Nachas for the RBSh"O! Let's stay clean.  8)

Do you differ and feel there is a tachlis to have such discussions?
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Re: another get story..
« Reply #78 on: November 08, 2013, 08:18:11 AM »
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+1

But to you Mr. TruthHurts: to call DDF a moshav leitzim is unacceptable and will not be tolerated!! okaaaaay??
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Re: another get story..
« Reply #79 on: November 08, 2013, 09:30:46 AM »
@shmuelb
+1

But to you Mr. TruthHurts: to call DDF a moshav leitzim is unacceptable and will not be tolerated!! okaaaaay??
+1 if it's a moshav leitzim then he wouldn't be allowed to be part of DDF according to halacha.

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #80 on: November 08, 2013, 09:42:32 AM »
you have no idea what the truth is, neither do I.
Let's end the speculations and guesses here.

So when people accuse, I just clarify why it's not necessarily what one would think.

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #81 on: November 08, 2013, 10:22:57 AM »
Mods, any way we can separate the last 10 pages or whenever this conversation started into a dirty divorce/withholding get thread?

The conversation here has had nothing to do with the fbi sting.
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Re: another get story..
« Reply #82 on: November 08, 2013, 10:29:35 AM »
Great idea

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #83 on: November 08, 2013, 10:36:41 AM »
Now this thread is embarrassing. I know I should just not read it etc but a thread dedicated to this past nisht imho

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #84 on: November 09, 2013, 06:44:30 PM »
Now this thread is embarrassing. I know I should just not read it etc but a thread dedicated to this past nisht imho

This conversation didn't go quiet until it was separated :)
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Re: another get story..
« Reply #85 on: November 09, 2013, 07:43:12 PM »
NO!!! A GET IS NEVER A BARGAINING CHIP! WHY IS THAT SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND!
If someone's wife unjustifiably wants to get full custody of a man's children, and cut the husband away from his children.
If that man doesn't use his Get as a bargaining chip, he is an idiot. 

I have no clue the facts in this case, but there definitely is a place for using a Get as a bargaining chip. If someone is playing dirty with you, (making up stories to the Judge), sometimes you have to act dirty back.
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Re: another get story..
« Reply #86 on: November 09, 2013, 10:52:08 PM »
what does this have to do with kotler?

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #87 on: November 09, 2013, 11:37:28 PM »

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Re: another get story..
« Reply #88 on: November 10, 2013, 12:46:02 AM »
If someone's wife unjustifiably wants to get full custody of a man's children, and cut the husband away from his children.
If that man doesn't use his Get as a bargaining chip, he is an idiot. 

I have no clue the facts in this case, but there definitely is a place for using a Get as a bargaining chip. If someone is playing dirty with you, (making up stories to the Judge), sometimes you have to act dirty back.
+1. As I learned on my own....... I totally agree that to hold back a get for $, or just because you still like her etc.... is unacceptable, but when she want's full custody, and whenever you're coming to pick up your child for visitation, the child is having fever...... end she makes sure that you end up with no visitation, yes, that explains what someone up thread asked... why hashem made that just the husband can give a get. 

Also, I have no clue what the facts are here, BUT whenever you discuss this kind of stuff you ALWAYS have to remember, there is HIS story, HER story, and the TRUE story.
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Re: another get story..
« Reply #89 on: November 10, 2013, 11:34:16 AM »

what does this have to do with kotler?
The girl is a kotler relative.