Some people write about deals and price mistakes, some about food, some about their kids, and some about their cats. She wants to write about her life, now get out the pitchforks and let's blame her for being born in a place where she had to stand before 7 men who dictated her most intimate details of her life.
I'm sorry to break it to you, many men are not okay with it. But by the time they hit puberty they are married with 3 kids and never had a say in the matter.
I find that usually when someone says "I won't generalize, but..." they're about to do exactly that...
usually when i mean to offend someone i will start off staying no offense, its a subconscious way to say what you want and feel that you dont wanna offend anyone.. ask unique.
well here it goes.. take offense please.. your a complete fool and i will call you out on it!
1 - people writing price mistakes and finding deals is not a private matter! its fun nice enjoyable hobby for some! talking about how you went off the D bec u had a husband/commuinty for an ass is not my business and no one else's UNLESS its needed, i promise you all the chassidishe OTD crap now a days is not needed!! so please dont compare what is a hobby to something that should stay in the four walls of someones home...
2 - the greatness if Judaism now a days is that one can be frum and yet doesnt have to follow the strictest rules out there. right? look, if someone has an issue the way they grew up they can change it when they get married. obviously its a discussion for your husband and urself but dont make it a public one. secondly if your not happy where u are why go to the opp extreme, grow your damn hair, wear a shtaiel, cover your utters, and keep shabb. there are plenty of places a person or family can start a-new. so yes i do get my pitch forks out bec i dont believe in the fact that she NEEDS to write about how she went off the derech.
3 - i personally have been saying this for years, someone who writes about how they went off has no confidence and has massive issues! look at riech... a zona (edited) in her own way, how did she get noticed by every guy and even a TV station, bec she went public on her story, she had other intentions she doesnt give a darn about Judaism bec she thinks she will make it as an ugly 40 yr old model. (thats what my mommy said)
4 - no need to break anything to me, im married and know what it means to discuss things over with my wife. yes, ever heard of that?!?! i know ur pulling for the chasidishe crap now a days, but hate to break it to YOU, but did you ever hear of discussing things with a spouse? if her and her husband both felt (as it seems like it was mutual) that there was issues where they lived, they both could have found another for liberal, yet chasidishe, place to live. so dont say first things go off the D if im not happy.
5 - @meshugy - anger doesnt mean you have to write about it, its stupid and useless. it gets more people agnry at you for writing about it. and whats this whole cult business? judiamsm is a cult, you get to pick details of your cult if you want, thats the way i see it. and to be honest most jews are proud to be jewishand part of this cult. there will always be a few bad apples, just gotta ignore them.