Author Topic: Engagement proposal? (Read 19211 times)

jj1000 · « **Reply #20 on:** January 14, 2014, 11:29:57 AM »

Quote from: CountValentine on January 14, 2014, 10:55:28 AM

Someone needs to work on their "people skills".

I know, it's a problem

Quote from: Ergel on January 14, 2014, 11:02:07 AM

+1. You should have asked her if she would cook you dinner

She would have known that was a joke, I already told her she doesn't know how to cook.

Anyway I think a proposal has to be personal based on something you did together or know about her. Even the craziest proposal isn't as meaningful as something personalized.

Penguin711 · « **Reply #21 on:** January 14, 2014, 11:43:11 AM »

Anyway I think a proposal has to be personal based on something you did together or know about her. Even the craziest proposal isn't as meaningful as something personalized.
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+1. I have friends who did crazy (and truthfully fascinating and creative) proposals but personally I opted for the thoughtful and personal route. And it worked so I can't complain

I'm glad I didn't ask her if she would do my laundry or pick up my dirty socks for me

HowYaDoin · « **Reply #22 on:** January 14, 2014, 11:46:38 AM »

Quote from: Let3 on January 14, 2014, 10:01:49 AM

I went to the city and had a caricature artist paint me proposing to my wife- while I was really just sitting next to her ...
(My brother went to him first and explained what I want, so we can just sit down and she wouldn't chap till afterwords... It worked out it end, but had a little botch up...) ,
Then I arranged a vintage car to bring us back to Brooklyn , where we had a private tour of Jewish heritage museum - where I had placed her kalah bracelet on display with all the old Egyptian jewelry.

pretty creative I like it

henche · « **Reply #23 on:** January 14, 2014, 11:49:08 AM »

I had a friend overturn a mountain and hold it over her head like a barrel and I said if she didn't marry me I'd drop it on her head.

Achas Veachas · « **Reply #24 on:** January 14, 2014, 11:51:52 AM »

Quote from: henche on January 14, 2014, 11:49:08 AM

I had a friend overturn a mountain and hold it over her head like a barrel and I said if she didn't marry me I'd drop it on her head.

Meh not original...

Freddie · « **Reply #25 on:** January 14, 2014, 12:22:47 PM »

Quote from: jj1000 on January 14, 2014, 10:53:27 AM

I asked her if she would "do my laundry for the rest of my life."

Guess it didn't work :-/

Wasn't meant to be.

aygart · « **Reply #26 on:** January 14, 2014, 12:30:16 PM »

Quote from: jj1000 on January 14, 2014, 11:29:57 AM

Anyway I think a proposal has to be personal based on something you did together or know about her. Even the craziest proposal isn't as meaningful as something personalized.

That's exactly why I didn't do any of the garbage.

Freddie · « **Reply #27 on:** January 14, 2014, 12:43:46 PM »

Quote from: aygart on January 14, 2014, 12:30:16 PM

That's exactly why I didn't do any of the garbage.

The dating process was in order (in part) to see if you could have fun. Now you know if you like each other. When you "propose," it's not time for shtick and gimmicks, especially shtick that is expressly meant to mimic the surrounding culture. An engagement is the foundation for the most holy and important job you will ever have in your whole life. It should be done in a spirit of kedusha v'taharah.

aygart · « **Reply #28 on:** January 14, 2014, 12:47:44 PM »

Quote from: Freddie on January 14, 2014, 12:43:46 PM

The dating process was in order (in part) to see if you could have fun.

it is?

Ok, maybe a small part, but date-like fun is not a major part of marriage.

YankyDoodle · « **Reply #29 on:** January 14, 2014, 12:54:41 PM »

Quote from: Freddie on January 14, 2014, 12:43:46 PM

When you "propose," it's not time for shtick and gimmicks, an engagement is the foundation for the most holy and important job you will ever have in your whole life.

Quote from: aygart on January 14, 2014, 12:30:16 PM

That's exactly why I didn't do any of the garbage.

You dudes are intense yo

Freddie · « **Reply #30 on:** January 14, 2014, 12:56:18 PM »

Quote from: aygart on January 14, 2014, 12:47:44 PM

it is? Ok, maybe a small part, but date-like fun is not a major part of marriage.

Yes, dating is 99% for the nefesh habehamis.
Whether or not your values are compatible should have been sorted out early on, or even before you met. Going out is to get to see if you like each other, or better yet, in order to get you to like each other.

ushdadude · « **Reply #31 on:** January 14, 2014, 01:03:47 PM »

Quote from: aygart on January 14, 2014, 12:47:44 PM

it is? Ok, maybe a small part, but date-like fun is not a major part of marriage ?

FTFY

You can never stop having fun together

rots5 · « **Reply #32 on:** January 14, 2014, 01:16:42 PM »

Quote from: aygart on January 14, 2014, 10:40:08 AM

This whole proposal thing is a bunch of garbage. For most "shadchan" shidduchim the answer was answered before the question was asked.

@aygert, you have serious issues, get them checked out...

secondly; CV what number wife was vegas? at least the third... right? or the that was AC?

JJ dont make it like u proposed to a girl if she can do ur laundry.... u asked ur mom and she said no. i was there....

Personally i dont see any reason that a proposal cant be meaningful and thoughtful AND yet fun at the same time. obviously an outsider wont see the fun in personal one but ppl who do something personal its usually fun too...