Poll

Do you shake hands with the opposite gender at work?

Yes, and I work in an environment where shaking hands is "a must".
19 (17.1%)
No, and I work in an environment where shaking hands is "a must".
21 (18.9%)
Yes, and I don't work in an environment where shaking hands is "a must"
19 (17.1%)
No, and I don't work in an environment where shaking hands is "a must"
44 (39.6%)
I wear a ring, and I like to take it off and spin it on my desk.
8 (7.2%)

Total Members Voted: 111

Author Topic: Married men wear a ring to the office?  (Read 64694 times)

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Married men wear a ring to the office?
« on: January 15, 2014, 12:51:01 PM »
Is this a good idea? Do you do so?

Will women be even less reserved with you because it feels "safe"? Or more reserved because they'll understand you're off limits? Doesn't your yarlmuke make you off limits enough?

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #1 on: January 15, 2014, 12:54:42 PM »
I wear one and I don't think it makes a difference. The women in my office know and understand that i'm off limits without it. I wear it because I've found patients trust a married man more. Go figure

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #2 on: January 15, 2014, 12:56:17 PM »
Is this a good idea? Do you do so?

Will women be even less reserved with you because it feels "safe"? Or more reserved because they'll understand you're off limits? Doesn't your yarlmuke make you off limits enough?
Anything a Yarmulka won't do a ring won't do either...
Unless it's a single girl looking for a Shidduch :)

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #3 on: January 15, 2014, 12:57:31 PM »
excellent topic. I'm curious to hear the comments.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #4 on: January 15, 2014, 01:06:38 PM »
The threads here are going off the deep end.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #5 on: January 15, 2014, 01:11:50 PM »
The threads here are going off the deep end.
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I thought you wear a ring to the office.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #6 on: January 15, 2014, 01:12:15 PM »
Do you think partners and clients will trust a married man more? Maybe I should wear one for that.

On the other hand, maybe being single implies more commitment to the firm.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #7 on: January 15, 2014, 01:30:08 PM »
Do you think partners and clients will trust a married man more? Maybe I should wear one for that.

On the other hand, maybe being single implies more commitment to the firm.

In my experience it doesn't make an iota of a difference. People will make their decision based on how they perceive your capabilities to deliver, regardless of you being single, married, white, black, straight, gay etc..

So no, your ring will not affect their decision one way or the other. (and frankly, nor will your yarmulke.)

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #8 on: January 15, 2014, 01:31:36 PM »
I've done both. No difference.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #9 on: January 15, 2014, 01:34:56 PM »
I wear one. I find that it can go either way.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #10 on: January 15, 2014, 01:37:36 PM »
In college I think a ring is a good thing, many people don't know a yalkmuka means you're off limits, but a ring they do understand and won't even try.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #11 on: January 15, 2014, 01:43:14 PM »
Assuming you don't wear one usually, why don't you ask Daas Torah instead of a bunch of people online?

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #12 on: January 15, 2014, 01:46:39 PM »
Assuming you don't wear one usually, why don't you ask Daas Torah instead of a bunch of people online?
His question had nothing to do with halacha.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #13 on: January 15, 2014, 01:49:51 PM »
His question had nothing to do with halacha.
I know.

I didn't say to ask a posek.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #14 on: January 15, 2014, 01:57:15 PM »
Assuming you don't wear one usually, why don't you ask Daas Torah instead of a bunch of people online?

I am daas torah. I'm doing my factual research here.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #15 on: January 15, 2014, 02:09:36 PM »
Assuming you don't wear one usually, why don't you ask Daas Torah instead of a bunch of people online?

I am daas torah. I'm doing my factual research here.

I'm impressed.
From my experience, a lot of LORs don't understand the dynamic of the workplace. When I asked about handshaking, all I heard was, "explain to them that you can't shake their hands and they'll respect you for it." First, it's not practical. Second, it's not true.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #16 on: January 15, 2014, 02:25:45 PM »

I'm impressed.
From my experience, a lot of LORs don't understand the dynamic of the workplace. When I asked about handshaking, all I heard was, "explain to them that you can't shake their hands and they'll respect you for it." First, it's not practical. Second, it's not true.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #17 on: January 15, 2014, 02:26:26 PM »
I know.

I didn't say to ask a posek.
haha, that's funny chabad would say a competent mashpia. I read it quickly.

Anyway I think hearing many peoples opinions is a good thing. Especially since some can speak from experience.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #18 on: January 15, 2014, 02:28:17 PM »
I'm impressed.
From my experience, a lot of LORs don't understand the dynamic of the workplace. When I asked about handshaking, all I heard was, "explain to them that you can't shake their hands and they'll respect you for it." First, it's not practical. Second, it's not true.

+1.
OT, but I found the same when asking about shaving during 3 weeks/sfira

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #19 on: January 15, 2014, 02:30:06 PM »
OT, but I found the same when asking about shaving.
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