Poll

Do you shake hands with the opposite gender at work?

Yes, and I work in an environment where shaking hands is "a must".
19 (17.3%)
No, and I work in an environment where shaking hands is "a must".
21 (19.1%)
Yes, and I don't work in an environment where shaking hands is "a must"
19 (17.3%)
No, and I don't work in an environment where shaking hands is "a must"
43 (39.1%)
I wear a ring, and I like to take it off and spin it on my desk.
8 (7.3%)

Total Members Voted: 110

Author Topic: Married men wear a ring to the office?  (Read 63458 times)

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #560 on: January 18, 2014, 07:52:42 PM »
I am dumber for reading that article
Just to clarify, I didn't quote the article because it is enlightening.  I quoted it because for those who remember it was a very big deal.  The idiot who wrote it - who of course is a yid - felt it was ethical for her to cancel the deal over his not shaking her hand.  The uproar was unbelievable and everyone was writing articles in response.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #561 on: January 18, 2014, 11:47:32 PM »
Finally got to the end of this thread.... When's moshiach coming?

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #562 on: January 18, 2014, 11:52:57 PM »
So Chabad.org is mistaken?

“The reason is a rather complex, even Freudian rationale. It is felt that touching a person of the opposite gender is essentially a sexual act, or at least the precursor of a sexual act. While it is true that most handshakes between men and women do not lead to sexual relations and are not even contemplated, sexual relations always begin with touching. It is also true that a handshake does communicate feelings albeit on a superficial level.”


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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #563 on: January 19, 2014, 12:19:25 AM »
Everyone moves back and forth at a Matisyahu concert.  And most of them are high.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #564 on: January 19, 2014, 12:36:24 AM »
I also no that MO ppl don't go to willamsburg asking for $$ to support our schools and shuls, but i no that ppl from RW yeshivos come to teaneck all the time (i see them, they knock on my door).
I spent a Shabbos in a Satmar Bikur Cholim apartment in NYC. 2 out of 5 rooms were occupied by MO families. Satmar provided Der Yid and The Jewish Press.

We had a great Shabbos together, 2 Chasiddeshe familes, 2 MO, and 1 Litveshe.

My mother (Litvish) was being treated by a MO doctor. The doc was supposed to go on vacation, but when a Jewish Hungarian lady who knew the doc was contacted by the Skverer Rebbe to beg him to stay in the hospital, he gave up his vacation and treated my mother.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #565 on: January 19, 2014, 08:44:15 AM »
I spent a Shabbos in a Satmar Bikur Cholim apartment in NYC. 2 out of 5 rooms were occupied by MO families. Satmar provided Der Yid and The Jewish Press.

We had a great Shabbos together, 2 Chasiddeshe familes, 2 MO, and 1 Litveshe.

My mother (Litvish) was being treated by a MO doctor. The doc was supposed to go on vacation, but when a Jewish Hungarian lady who knew the doc was contacted by the Skverer Rebbe to beg him to stay in the hospital, he gave up his vacation and treated my mother.
I guess behind all the bickering we are still family and that's what counts...

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #566 on: January 19, 2014, 08:58:04 AM »
I guess behind all the bickering we are still family and that's what counts...

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #567 on: January 19, 2014, 08:59:41 AM »
Bad times tend to unite people like that.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #568 on: January 19, 2014, 09:25:12 AM »
It's not always bad times when you use the bikur cholim rooms and in the NYC hospitals, sometimes it's for good things.
And yes it's amazing to see the achdus.

sky I wonder if you have something like this in your area.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #569 on: January 19, 2014, 09:29:07 AM »
There are at least 4 such rooms in various hospitals in CLE, I'd assume most cities do.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #570 on: January 19, 2014, 09:29:27 AM »
Bad times tend to unite people like that.

Not necessarily, reminds me of the time i spent shabbos in Shanghai, there were about 200 by the shabbos meal at the Chabad House, from the most secular who brought their Chinese kids along R"L to the Satmar guy who wouldn't talk Hebrew to my Israeli friend and literally every stop in between, all singing shabbos songs together. One of the most powerful experiences in my life.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #571 on: January 19, 2014, 10:05:36 AM »
There are at least 4 such rooms in various hospitals in CLE, I'd assume most cities do.
True.
But I think satmar bikur cholim is the largest.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #572 on: January 19, 2014, 10:16:30 AM »
Not necessarily, reminds me of the time i spent shabbos in Shanghai, there were about 200 by the shabbos meal at the Chabad House, from the most secular who brought their Chinese kids along R"L to the Satmar guy who wouldn't talk Hebrew to my Israeli friend and literally every stop in between, all singing shabbos songs together. One of the most powerful experiences in my life.
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #573 on: January 19, 2014, 10:16:55 AM »
I guess behind all the bickering we are still family and that's what counts...
My kids bicker all the time.:D
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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #574 on: January 19, 2014, 11:29:42 AM »
This thread reminds me of what I once heard from a bal darshen,
He said; There are 2 types of yiden, one type has 613 mitzvahs which he would do it to the best of his abilities to the utmost,

The 2nd type yid has 613 PROBLEMS which he has to deal with, so when anybody in general has a problem he would look for a solution to the problem,
So the 2nd type yid would always look for a solution [heter] to his problem...

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #575 on: January 19, 2014, 12:22:49 PM »
I'm not saying this to attack anyone, just sharing a story someone told me.

There was once a guy who lived his life to the strict letter of the law. If there was a kulah or heter he always used it and was careful to never be machmir. When asked about his hashkafa in various matters he always answered "Well according to some shittos it's muttar".

After 120 he was shocked to discover that while he was allowed into Gan Eden it was a bare bones version with none of the perks he had been expecting. He was surprised and asked why if he's kept all of the halachos his entire life, he ended up with this. Is this really what Gan Eden is?
The reply?  According to some Shittos it is!!!   :)

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #576 on: January 20, 2014, 01:08:29 AM »
I'm not saying this to attack anyone, just sharing a story someone told me.

There was once a guy who lived his life to the strict letter of the law. If there was a kulah or heter he always used it and was careful to never be machmir. When asked about his hashkafa in various matters he always answered "Well according to some shittos it's muttar".

After 120 he was shocked to discover that while he was allowed into Gan Eden it was a bare bones version with none of the perks he had been expecting. He was surprised and asked why if he's kept all of the halachos his entire life, he ended up with this. Is this really what Gan Eden is?
The reply?  According to some Shittos it is!!!   :)
Are you hinting what I think you're hinting?

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #577 on: January 20, 2014, 01:44:49 AM »
Are you hinting what I think you're hinting?
No. I just thought it was a cute 'story'

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #578 on: January 20, 2014, 08:57:44 AM »
No. I just thought it was a cute 'story'

It's a true story. I heard it from his son.

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Re: Married men wear a ring to the office?
« Reply #579 on: January 20, 2014, 10:16:26 AM »
No. I just thought it was a cute 'story'
Reminds me of this story from Amnon Yitzchak: