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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #30 on: January 17, 2014, 10:42:45 AM »

I really don't get the whole premise.  I have no pics from HKG online.  When I was in HKG I wasn't thinking what can I do that would look cool online.

We have a good time and if I get around to writing about it afterward I get to relive that good time again in my mind.

But that the trip is only enjoyable because it's shared?  That's seriously messed up.  If travel is stressful then why bother?
Dan how many pictures do you take on your vacations?

If it's all about 'enjoying the moment' then why take so many?

Oh, right.
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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #31 on: January 17, 2014, 10:44:41 AM »
Dan how many pictures do you take on your vacations?

If it's all about 'enjoying the moment' then why take so many?

Oh, right.

It's all about balance. And taking pictures is a great example of how everyone has to pay attention to focus and be in the moment in their day to day lives.
There is nothing wrong with taking pictures as long as you're not missing out.
As someone who actually enjoys taking pictures a lot I have to remind myself to put the camera down sometimes and just BE. But I do. I have days on vacation where I specifically won't take a camera. Life is about balance. And we all need to work on it all the time.
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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #32 on: January 17, 2014, 10:48:31 AM »
I can personally say I could have afforded a bigger house and chose not to buy it because I did not need it.

not anymore with the way house prices have gone in Thornhill!

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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #33 on: January 17, 2014, 10:50:54 AM »
Dan how many pictures do you take on your vacations?

If it's all about 'enjoying the moment' then why take so many?

Oh, right.
Are you kidding me?
I have thousands of pictures from vacations dating back to being a kid, teenager, and on.

From my year in Brazil alone I have thousands of pictures.  I enjoy taking them and I enjoy going back down memory lane, but they are nowhere to be found online.  And yes, I even have pictures of food and airline meals from those days.

I enjoy taking pictures on vacations and that has nothing to do with being a blogger. 

Even if you don't suffer from this malady it sure seems that you suffer from being really overly judgmental.
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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #34 on: January 17, 2014, 10:51:57 AM »
This thread is going way off track,
I love planning vacation looking around for nice hotels and things to do,
when I do get stress, is my last day at work, until i get to my destination and I'm settled down.

and btw, I do take pictures during vacation, not to show for anyone, just to enjoy it afterwards

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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #35 on: January 17, 2014, 10:52:49 AM »

Even if you don't suffer from this malady it sure seems that you suffer from being really overly judgmental.
Ouch. Harsh words.
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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #36 on: January 17, 2014, 11:02:10 AM »
Hey I don't remember saying that I suffer from this but it seems like everyone wants to assume that. Thank you for the chizuk. If I have this problem I will address it with my Rav/Therapist.
From your posts in this thread,  it seems that you suffer from jealousy/it bothers you that others are able to take vacations while your not able  to.

Am I right or wrong about any part of that? Yes or no?
 

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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #37 on: January 17, 2014, 11:03:50 AM »
Ouch. Harsh words.
I'm just starting to put together a theme from these kinds of posts.

You seem to seriously deride the fact that people enjoy the most pleasurable things in life: kids, vacations, etc.
And say that nobody can possibly really enjoy them, all that's possible is that they just like posting pictures on FB about [Insert: Kids, marriage, vacations, etc] but really it's just miserable.

Not everyone is that miserable.  Life is challenging, sure.  But that doesn't mean we're all getting by each day by faking it.
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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #38 on: January 17, 2014, 11:05:38 AM »
When did a photo become just something to show off with and rub in friends' faces? I remember when a picture was for one's own collection, to keep the memory fresh for the ppl that are actually in the photo itself. Thanks fb and insta! :(

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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #39 on: January 17, 2014, 11:07:48 AM »

From your posts in this thread,  it seems that you suffer from jealousy/it bothers you that others are able to take vacations while your not able  to.

Am I right or wrong about any part of that? Yes or no?
Not even a bit.
B"H I get to take vacations and I'm very happy for those who can take them as well.
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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #40 on: January 17, 2014, 11:08:25 AM »
I was just thinking about how sometimes a big trip can actually be stressful instead of relaxing.
What part of a trip stresses you out? Planning, booking, unforeseen expenses etc.?

I probably spend more time planning/researching the trip than the trip itself. I love the planning stage and enjoying the excitement of looking forward to the trip.

There used to be some anxiety with respect to the flights with kids but after a couple of flights you learn how to manage and plan for it.

While on vacation there is very little stress involved. If something on our itinerary doesn't get done it just gives us an excuse to come back. Even if the day is jam packed you still need to just go with the flow, especially with kids.





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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #41 on: January 17, 2014, 11:12:33 AM »
I never has so much stress from trying to find award tickets.
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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #42 on: January 17, 2014, 11:12:39 AM »
I believe the RMB"M says that if we all lived alone in a forest we would be happy living in a hut with one blanket.


Pretty sure that's not true. Do you have a source?
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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #43 on: January 17, 2014, 11:13:09 AM »

Dan how many pictures do you take on your vacations?

If it's all about 'enjoying the moment' then why take so many?

Oh, right.

My wife takes so many pictures bit just during vacation
It's a great way to relive your memories
Nothing to do with sharing with others

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Re: Vacation Stress
« Reply #44 on: January 17, 2014, 11:15:07 AM »

I'm just starting to put together a theme from these kinds of posts.

You seem to seriously deride the fact that people enjoy the most pleasurable things in life: kids, vacations, etc.
And say that nobody can possibly really enjoy them, all that's possible is that they just like posting pictures on FB about [Insert: Kids, marriage, vacations, etc] but really it's just miserable.

Not everyone is that miserable.  Life is challenging, sure.  But that doesn't mean we're all getting by each day by faking it.
Ok. I'm happy to address these.

First of all there is no derision. If people enjoy showing off what they have, that is normal human behavior. The only issue I have with that FB feed bloated with show off pics is that showing off your good fortune hurts others which leads to 'Facebook depression' - a serious problem that I did NOT invent.

Second: I Never said that 'nobody can possibly enjoy things and that everyone is miserable, and the only thing possible is posting pics' please do not say that I said that, this is just taking my arguments to an extreme and then poking holes in them.

Third, all I said was that people clearly enjoy telling others about their vacations. C'mon how can you argue with that?

What is so sensitive about that? Did I touch a nerve? Is it such a bad thing to want to tell ppl about your vacation that no one wants to be accused of it? The only reason I mentioned it was to make the point that vacations may be less inherently fun if a portion of the fun is telling people about it.
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