Poll

Do you hit your children, and why/why not?

Heck yeah!
11 (14.1%)
Never!
15 (19.2%)
I try not to but when they really get crazy...
9 (11.5%)
Only for Chinuch or life threatening situations.
33 (42.3%)
I don't but my spouse does.
1 (1.3%)
You mean people still do this? *shocked*
9 (11.5%)

Total Members Voted: 78

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #60 on: February 19, 2014, 03:21:27 PM »
IMHO, Actually, negative reinforcement will only prevent your child from doing that behavior in front of the parents but will increase their desire to do it away from the parents.
FTFY

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #61 on: February 19, 2014, 03:22:23 PM »
A hitting parent and one that gives a potch once in a blue moon are two different things.
You mean like the difference between smoking filtered and unfiltered?
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #62 on: February 19, 2014, 03:25:05 PM »
can we first determine at what age (one who does hit their kids) starts at. my kids to young. OP please put a - i am not sure yet.
Please, please listen to this before you decide.  :-\

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #63 on: February 19, 2014, 03:26:46 PM »
I must say that this generation (the first one with an anti discipline attitude) is producing the greatest products.

#sarcasm

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #64 on: February 19, 2014, 03:28:45 PM »

I must say that this generation (the first one with an anti discipline attitude) is producing the greatest products.

#sarcasm
and that can all be attributed to not hitting!?

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #65 on: February 19, 2014, 03:29:53 PM »
Speaking to a 'hitting parent', think about the last time you spanked your child. Think about the mood you were in. If you had just received a huge salary bonus or raise, and had been in a terrific mood, do you think you'd have still hit your child?

Probably not.

That means that the spanking can be attributed to your mood rather than the child's behavior.

Just something to think about.
I disagree. If one just got a raise and he comes home all happy and he sees his kid run in the street he will most probably hit the kid.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #66 on: February 19, 2014, 03:30:12 PM »
I think the next thread should be "Does Your Kid Hit You"?

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #67 on: February 19, 2014, 03:30:41 PM »
YOU hit them at birth?
Slap on the butt.  :P
I cut the cord also. Do you guys do that?
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #68 on: February 19, 2014, 03:30:54 PM »
and that can all be attributed to not hitting!?
of course not. I didn't write "hitting", I wrote "discipline".

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #69 on: February 19, 2014, 03:31:31 PM »
I was referring to preventing the child from running in the street in the future. As to whether hitting is the most effective way to accomplish this was not my point ( although I was assuming it is). My point was that although hitting (or other quick fixes) may be the most effective way to get quick results it is almost never warranted because parenting is not just about getting  children to behave. It's a life long process and trading quick results for long term ones is short sighted.That being said there are situations where we need the quick result, like when child is running in the street, And must trade in the long term results for short term gains.
The above quote is thoroughly self contradictory. I'm at a loss.
You clarified for me that the topic you are discussing is preventing child from running into the street in the future. Not stopping them from running while they are running. Ok. Your stance on this topic is that hitting is appropriate. Then you say that a child running into the street is a situation where we need a quick result and that's why hitting is warranted. Huh? Why is a quick result necessary, unless you are in fact referring to stopping a child who is in the act of running into the street? You said so clearly that you are referring to preventing future running...

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #70 on: February 19, 2014, 03:31:37 PM »
I think the next thread should be "Does Your Kid Hit You"?
That wouldn't be a poll. Everyone would answer yes  :)

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #71 on: February 19, 2014, 03:31:48 PM »
I must say that this generation (the first one with an anti discipline attitude) is producing the greatest products.

#sarcasm
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #72 on: February 19, 2014, 03:33:11 PM »
It's not about the title, Rather about the OP.... I know he is the OP without opening the thread.
Thought it was just me.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #73 on: February 19, 2014, 03:33:46 PM »

I must say that this generation (the first one with an anti discipline attitude) is producing the greatest products.

#sarcasm

One of the great fallacies: that our generation is worse than all the ones before it.

Time for a looong history lesson.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #74 on: February 19, 2014, 03:34:24 PM »
I believe that a great parent that can instill in his child a deep belief in their love for their child, has more leeway when it comes to discipline.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #75 on: February 19, 2014, 03:35:27 PM »
One of the great fallacies: that our generation is worse than all the ones before it.

Time for a looong history lesson.
that's debatable. Start a new thread  ;)
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #76 on: February 19, 2014, 03:36:01 PM »

The above quote is thoroughly self contradictory. I'm at a loss.
You clarified for me that the topic you are discussing is preventing child from running into the street in the future. Not stopping them from running while they are running. Ok. Your stance on this topic is that hitting is appropriate. Then you say that a child running into the street is a situation where we need a quick result and that's why hitting is warranted. Huh? Why is a quick result necessary, unless you are in fact referring to stopping a child who is in the act of running into the street? You said so clearly that you are referring to preventing future running...
My bad. When I said quick results I meant next few days/years, while they are still too young to appreciate the danger. As opposed  to long term results;how it will affect them when they get older

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #77 on: February 19, 2014, 03:36:31 PM »
One of the great fallacies: that our generation is worse than all the ones before it.

Time for a looong history lesson.
Why is that a fallacy?

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #78 on: February 19, 2014, 03:36:39 PM »
One of the great fallacies: that our generation is worse than all the ones before it.

Time for a looong history lesson.
The egotism and spoiled nature and self centeredness of this generation is worse. That IMHO is a direct result of today's parenting.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #79 on: February 19, 2014, 03:38:34 PM »
Speaking to a 'hitting parent', think about the last time you spanked your child. Think about the mood you were in. If you had just received a huge salary bonus or raise, and had been in a terrific mood, do you think you'd have still hit your child?

Probably not.

That means that the spanking can be attributed to your mood rather than the child's behavior.

Just something to think about.


I have a few friends whose dads have a hitting jacket"- when they feel their kid deserves a smack, they first go to the closet and put on this jacket- this gives them time to cool down and assess if they are hitting due to their mood or the behavior of the kid