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Do you hit your children, and why/why not?

Heck yeah!
11 (14.1%)
Never!
15 (19.2%)
I try not to but when they really get crazy...
9 (11.5%)
Only for Chinuch or life threatening situations.
33 (42.3%)
I don't but my spouse does.
1 (1.3%)
You mean people still do this? *shocked*
9 (11.5%)

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #15 on: February 19, 2014, 01:32:55 PM »
IMO if you need to you your kids there is something wrong with your chinuch
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #16 on: February 19, 2014, 01:34:59 PM »

IMO if you need to you your kids there is something wrong with your chinuch
+.9999 there are extreme situations where hitting may be necessary.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #17 on: February 19, 2014, 01:39:33 PM »
IMO if you need to you your kids there is something wrong with your chinuch

what if you just WANT to

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #18 on: February 19, 2014, 01:39:44 PM »
+.9999 there are extreme situations where hitting may be necessary.
For example?
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #19 on: February 19, 2014, 01:40:18 PM »
Without elaborating, as King Solomon says when you never hit your kids, it means you don't like them. It definitely has to be done with Seichel, meaning you can't hit your kid because you're posting on DDF and he keeps on shlepping you to play with him, just get off DDF and do what a father has to do. Dont get in Kays and give him a smake. etc etc etc I am always thinking, do I wonna smake him because he shouldn't do it next time OR because im angry, you can't hit because you're angry.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #20 on: February 19, 2014, 01:41:28 PM »

For example?

Kid running into the street. Touching fire/the stove. Etc. A one time event that they need to learn something crucial that isn't sufficient taught verbally.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #21 on: February 19, 2014, 01:42:22 PM »

For example?
Any situation where the child's well being is in grave danger (such as running in the street) and your hitting them is the most effective way to prevent this from happening. I would add that even in such situations the parent must be certain that they are not hitting out of anger or frustration.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #22 on: February 19, 2014, 01:44:27 PM »

Without elaborating, as King Solomon says when you never hit your kids, it means you don't like them. It definitely has to be done with Seichel, meaning you can't hit your kid because you're posting on DDF and he keeps on shlepping you to play with him, just get off DDF and do what a father has to do. Dont get in Kays and give him a smake. etc etc etc I am always thinking, do I wonna smake him because he shouldn't do it next time OR because im angry, you can't hit because you're angry.
i think almost universally all present day gedolim do not feel the Talmud and king Solomon's lines about hitting children apply today

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #23 on: February 19, 2014, 01:45:28 PM »
Without elaborating, as King Solomon says when you never hit your kids, it means you don't like them. It definitely has to be done with Seichel, meaning you can't hit your kid because you're posting on DDF and he keeps on shlepping you to play with him, just get off DDF and do what a father has to do. Dont get in Kays and give him a smake. etc etc etc I am always thinking, do I wonna smake him because he shouldn't do it next time OR because im angry, you can't hit because you're angry.
You seriously smake your kids?

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #24 on: February 19, 2014, 01:45:53 PM »
Kid running into the street. Touching fire/the stove. Etc. A one time event that they need to learn something crucial that isn't sufficient taught verbally.

Any situation where the child's well being is in grave danger (such as running in the street) and your hitting them is the most effective way to prevent this from happening. I would add that even in such situations the parent must be certain that they are not hitting out of anger or frustration.

Actually, negative reinforcement will only prevent your child from doing that behavior in front of the parents but will increase their desire to do it away from the parents.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #25 on: February 19, 2014, 01:46:40 PM »

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #26 on: February 19, 2014, 01:49:42 PM »
I only hit my children in self defense...
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #27 on: February 19, 2014, 01:51:58 PM »
Kid running into the street. Touching fire/the stove. Etc. A one time event that they need to learn something crucial that isn't sufficient taught verbally.
In principle, I agree. However, I personally believe you can make the same point verbally. Chastise the kid to the point of tears and you accomplish the same thing
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #28 on: February 19, 2014, 01:52:30 PM »
You seriously smake your kids?
I think the OP asked not to get personal....

I probably smaked 3 times (my kid is 3) and to mention, smaking does not mean beating up a kid, just taking his hands and give a little Dada is more then enough (it shouldn't hurt them, they get the message anyways)
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #29 on: February 19, 2014, 01:54:06 PM »
I only hit my children in self defense...
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