Poll

Do you hit your children, and why/why not?

Heck yeah!
11 (14.1%)
Never!
15 (19.2%)
I try not to but when they really get crazy...
9 (11.5%)
Only for Chinuch or life threatening situations.
33 (42.3%)
I don't but my spouse does.
1 (1.3%)
You mean people still do this? *shocked*
9 (11.5%)

Total Members Voted: 78

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #75 on: February 19, 2014, 03:35:27 PM »
One of the great fallacies: that our generation is worse than all the ones before it.

Time for a looong history lesson.
that's debatable. Start a new thread  ;)
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #76 on: February 19, 2014, 03:36:01 PM »

The above quote is thoroughly self contradictory. I'm at a loss.
You clarified for me that the topic you are discussing is preventing child from running into the street in the future. Not stopping them from running while they are running. Ok. Your stance on this topic is that hitting is appropriate. Then you say that a child running into the street is a situation where we need a quick result and that's why hitting is warranted. Huh? Why is a quick result necessary, unless you are in fact referring to stopping a child who is in the act of running into the street? You said so clearly that you are referring to preventing future running...
My bad. When I said quick results I meant next few days/years, while they are still too young to appreciate the danger. As opposed  to long term results;how it will affect them when they get older

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #77 on: February 19, 2014, 03:36:31 PM »
One of the great fallacies: that our generation is worse than all the ones before it.

Time for a looong history lesson.
Why is that a fallacy?

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #78 on: February 19, 2014, 03:36:39 PM »
One of the great fallacies: that our generation is worse than all the ones before it.

Time for a looong history lesson.
The egotism and spoiled nature and self centeredness of this generation is worse. That IMHO is a direct result of today's parenting.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #79 on: February 19, 2014, 03:38:34 PM »
Speaking to a 'hitting parent', think about the last time you spanked your child. Think about the mood you were in. If you had just received a huge salary bonus or raise, and had been in a terrific mood, do you think you'd have still hit your child?

Probably not.

That means that the spanking can be attributed to your mood rather than the child's behavior.

Just something to think about.


I have a few friends whose dads have a hitting jacket"- when they feel their kid deserves a smack, they first go to the closet and put on this jacket- this gives them time to cool down and assess if they are hitting due to their mood or the behavior of the kid

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #80 on: February 19, 2014, 03:39:15 PM »
The egotism and spoiled nature and self centeredness of this generation is worse. That IMHO is a direct result of today's parenting.
Its not the parenting, its the parents!

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #81 on: February 19, 2014, 03:39:44 PM »

I have a few friends whose dads have a hitting jacket"- when they feel their kid deserves a smack, they first go to the closet and put on this jacket- this gives them time to cool down and assess if they are hitting due to their mood or the behavior of the kid
Not sure why they would need a jacket. If they remember every time to get the jacket then they should remember to cool down.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #82 on: February 19, 2014, 03:40:09 PM »
Its not the parenting, its the parents!
Same thing

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #83 on: February 19, 2014, 03:41:19 PM »
Same thing
Doesn't seem to be obvious to some. The point is, that 98% of chinuch is not applied, its subconsciously absorbed.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #84 on: February 19, 2014, 03:41:37 PM »
Not sure why they would need a jacket. If they remember every time to get the jacket then they should remember to cool down.

Doing an action is diff then thinking

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #85 on: February 19, 2014, 03:42:06 PM »
The egotism and spoiled nature and self centeredness of this generation is worse. That IMHO is a direct result of today's parenting.
That is an almost word for word quote from Plato...
Curiosity made the cat smarter.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #86 on: February 19, 2014, 03:42:24 PM »
Doesn't seem to be obvious to some. The point is, that 98% of chinuch is not applied, its subconsciously absorbed.
true
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #87 on: February 19, 2014, 03:42:39 PM »
That is an almost word for word quote from Plato...
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #88 on: February 19, 2014, 03:43:29 PM »
can we first determine at what age (one who does hit their kids) starts at. my kids to young. OP please put a - i am not sure yet.
For you the question is: did your dad hit you?
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #89 on: February 19, 2014, 03:45:25 PM »
Curiosity made the cat smarter.