Do you hit your kids?

[elit]

Its not the parenting, its the parents!

Same thing

Not at all the same perhaps  the parents are still dealing with the repercussions of the parenting of the last generation which maybe the problem....

[elit]

I must say that this generation (the first one with an anti discipline attitude) is producing the greatest products.

#sarcasm

it is quite disturbing to me that people think today's problems stem from a lack of discipline. What is the line of thinking? Where is there evidence to that? What das Torah agrees with that?

[Baruch]

it is quite disturbing to me that people think today's problems stem from a lack of discipline. What is the line of thinking? Where is there evidence to that? What das Torah agrees with that?

discipline does not equal hitting.

[Lou Bob]

discipline does not equal hitting.

but hitting is a form of disciplining

[yehuda S]

Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?

[judahk88]

Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?

Thats a bad comparison.

[churnbabychurn]

Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?

That would be a great new thread! Poll and all 

[Baruch]

Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?

[henche]

Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?

I actually think this makes the point very well.

When you want to influence how your spouse does things, you don't hit them. Not only because they'd divorce you, but because it would be mean, and anyway wouldn't work very well.

[Lou Bob]

I actually think this makes the point very well.

When you want to influence how your spouse does things, you don't hit them. Not only because they'd divorce you, but because it would be mean, and anyway wouldn't work very well.

a spouse is Diff as they have the ability to think, as well as life experience.
A kid has neither (or actually, a very limited amount of both)

[Achas Veachas]

That would be a great new thread! Poll and all 

+

I actually think this makes the point very well.

When you want to influence how your spouse does things, you don't hit them. Not only because they'd divorce you, but because it would be mean, and anyway wouldn't work very well.

+100

[judahk88]

I actually think this makes the point very well.

When you want to influence how your spouse does things, you don't hit them. Not only because they'd divorce you, but because it would be mean, and anyway wouldn't work very well.

It is much harder to influence and adult than a child.

[yehuda S]

Thats a bad comparison.

you're right it is a terrible comparison. A spouse can leave you, seek shelter, file for divorce, protect her or himself in someway.

A child is totally helpless,  and did not ask to be born to you.

[Ergel]

It is much harder to influence and adult than a child.

Exactly

[Baruch]

I believe people without children have a very weak comprehension on parenting issues. And it is annoying to read their insightless comments.

[Ches]

You don't have any responsibility to be mchanech your wife, but you have it on your kids.

[Baruch]

and did not ask to be born to you.

#immaturity

[judahk88]

you're right it is a terrible comparison. A spouse can leave you, seek shelter, file for divorce, protect her or himself in someway.

A child is totally helpless,  and did not ask to be born to you.

Iam not one who just hits his kids all the time for no reason. If I see my child run in to the street or do something dangerous or life threatening I will give him/her a slap to remind them not to do it again. I think that giving a slap will leave more of an impression then just telling a 2-3 year old not to do it.

[Ergel]

#immaturity

Noach lo l'adam shelo nivra
#chazal

[henche]

You don't have any responsibility to be mchanech your wife, but you have it on your kids.

Ok.

But you're still are trying to influence what they do. Why not use the best methods?