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Do you hit your children, and why/why not?

Heck yeah!
11 (14.1%)
Never!
15 (19.2%)
I try not to but when they really get crazy...
9 (11.5%)
Only for Chinuch or life threatening situations.
33 (42.3%)
I don't but my spouse does.
1 (1.3%)
You mean people still do this? *shocked*
9 (11.5%)

Total Members Voted: 78

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #120 on: February 19, 2014, 04:35:25 PM »
Iam not one who just hits his kids all the time for no reason. If I see my child run in to the street or do something dangerous or life threatening I will give him/her a slap to remind them not to do it again. I think that giving a slap will leave more of an impression then just telling a 2-3 year old not to do it.
And if you saw your wife do something dangerous?
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #121 on: February 19, 2014, 04:36:12 PM »
And if you saw your wife do something dangerous?
standby  ;D
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #122 on: February 19, 2014, 04:36:24 PM »

Iam not one who just hits his kids all the time for no reason. If I see my child run in to the street or do something dangerous or life threatening I will give him/her a slap to remind them not to do it again. I think that giving a slap will leave more of an impression then just telling a 2-3 year old not to do it.

And what an impression! Just not the one you want.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #123 on: February 19, 2014, 04:36:46 PM »
Ok.

But you're still are trying to influence what they do. Why not use the best methods?
Because an adult will listen to reason with words a child won't. If you tell an adult "no you can not have that candy" they will understand, but if you tell a child that they will start crying and screaming (not all kids)

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #124 on: February 19, 2014, 04:38:16 PM »
Think about how incredibly unacceptable it is for adults to hit other adults in society, even when taunted or angered. It is almost universally considered terrible behavior.

Doing it to a little kid is so much worse.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #125 on: February 19, 2014, 04:38:39 PM »
And what an impression! Just not the one you want.
Do you think that a child who got smacked as a kid for going into the street or doing something dangerous is scarred?
I know I was hit in those instances as a child and I think I turned out ok.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #126 on: February 19, 2014, 04:39:01 PM »
Because an adult will listen to reason with words a child won't. If you tell an adult "no you can not have that candy" they will understand, but if you tell a child that they will start crying and screaming (not all kids)

What if your spouse refuses to listen to reason on something?

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #127 on: February 19, 2014, 04:39:18 PM »
חושך שבטו שונא את בנו
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #128 on: February 19, 2014, 04:39:38 PM »
Do you think that a child who got smacked as a kid for going into the street or doing something dangerous is scarred?
I know I was hit in those instances as a child and I think I turned out ok.

What do you mean you turned out ok? You're arguing here to beat little kids!

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #129 on: February 19, 2014, 04:39:41 PM »
Think about how incredibly unacceptable it is for adults to hit other adults in society, even when taunted or angered. It is almost universally considered terrible behavior.

Doing it to a little kid is so much worse.
You are correct, but you cannot compare the 2.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #130 on: February 19, 2014, 04:40:26 PM »
What do you mean you turned out ok? You're arguing here to beat little kids!
woah!! I didn't say "beat". Big difference between beat and hit when they do somethong dangerous!

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #131 on: February 19, 2014, 04:40:51 PM »
You are correct, but you cannot compare the 2.
That's right, adults will fight back...
Curiosity made the cat smarter.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #132 on: February 19, 2014, 04:40:54 PM »

What do you mean you turned out ok? You're arguing here to beat little kids!
LOL!!
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #133 on: February 19, 2014, 04:40:58 PM »
and not שונא את אשתו
cause hitting is only made for chinuch not for persuasiveness.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #134 on: February 19, 2014, 04:41:07 PM »
That's right, adults will fight back...
Lol some adults