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Do you hit your children, and why/why not?

Heck yeah!
11 (14.1%)
Never!
15 (19.2%)
I try not to but when they really get crazy...
9 (11.5%)
Only for Chinuch or life threatening situations.
33 (42.3%)
I don't but my spouse does.
1 (1.3%)
You mean people still do this? *shocked*
9 (11.5%)

Total Members Voted: 78

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #150 on: February 19, 2014, 04:58:37 PM »
I'm sorry to hear that. You should really stop being such a pushover and stand up to her.
I have a feeling you just got married. You're a little inexperienced. I see this with 99% of newlyweds. 

Wait, give it time and you'll slowly land from your honeymoon highness.

You'll realize life is not made just of a bed of roses, sometimes we have to hit our spouse, sometimes they hit back.
Thats life, thats what everyone does, thats what your parents did and that's what you'll realize sooner rather than later.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #151 on: February 19, 2014, 05:02:51 PM »
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #152 on: February 19, 2014, 05:03:13 PM »
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #153 on: February 19, 2014, 05:07:22 PM »
In answer to the OP's question, Do you hit your kids, i have to say IME it all depends If & how much you were hit as a kid.
My father never spared me from the rod (I'll admit I wasn't an easy kid) & I see that today, when my kid does something wrong bad or pushes me to the end of my tether I have a strong impulse to give him a potch, B'H I'm able to calm down & think straight & give my kid the appropriate punishment, but its not easy

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #154 on: February 19, 2014, 05:08:43 PM »
Did anyone here ever have a situation where a spouse acted in an upsetting or thoughtless way? Did you react by spanking him/her?

If so, were the results positive?
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #155 on: February 19, 2014, 05:11:07 PM »
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #157 on: February 19, 2014, 05:13:18 PM »
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #158 on: February 19, 2014, 05:21:29 PM »
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #159 on: February 19, 2014, 05:21:40 PM »
Curiosity made the cat smarter.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #160 on: February 19, 2014, 05:21:51 PM »
I have a feeling you just got married. You're a little inexperienced. I see this with 99% of newlyweds. 

Wait, give it time and you'll slowly land from your honeymoon highness.

You'll realize life is not made just of a bed of roses, sometimes we have to hit our spouse, sometimes they hit back.
Thats life, thats what everyone does, thats what your parents did and that's what you'll realize sooner rather than later.
When I was taking Chosson classes and learning Harchakos our teacher told us that only a Negi'ah Derech Chibah was Assur, one Chosson asked jokingly if you are allowed to hit your wife? The teacher answered with the following story.
A woman came to her Rov to complain that her husband was always hitting her, the Rov called in the husband and admonished him and told him that it's Assur to hit his wife. The husband accepted that and left. A few weeks later the Rov sees the wife and asks her how is the Shalom Bayis? The woman replied "Oy! It's terrible! Now he doesn't even hit me anymore...".
The Chosson teacher concluded "Apparently hitting your wife can be Derech Chibah..."
Curiosity made the cat smarter.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #161 on: February 19, 2014, 05:22:08 PM »
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #162 on: February 19, 2014, 05:29:15 PM »
Goodness, the argument for corporal punishment of children is to instill in them the concept of consequences to their actions.
I don't get it. That's an argument for punishment in general. Nothing you said explains the necessity or usefulness of corporal punishment specifically.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #163 on: February 19, 2014, 05:33:27 PM »
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #164 on: February 19, 2014, 05:33:52 PM »
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