Poll

Do you hit your children, and why/why not?

Heck yeah!
11 (14.1%)
Never!
15 (19.2%)
I try not to but when they really get crazy...
9 (11.5%)
Only for Chinuch or life threatening situations.
33 (42.3%)
I don't but my spouse does.
1 (1.3%)
You mean people still do this? *shocked*
9 (11.5%)

Total Members Voted: 78

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #180 on: February 19, 2014, 06:26:38 PM »
Sorry to hear that. I am guessing everything worked out OK?
No, she's crying so much.   :)
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #181 on: February 19, 2014, 06:26:40 PM »
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #182 on: February 19, 2014, 06:36:37 PM »
Are there LORs who allow that? :o
Alts negia or reiyah?

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #183 on: February 19, 2014, 06:46:26 PM »
Are there LORs who allow that? :o
Alts negia or reiyah?

Not a negia issue and as long as he's careful, it's not a reiyah issue either. So most LORs will say it's ok.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #184 on: February 19, 2014, 07:09:57 PM »
I think that depending on the age of the child, a little potch is ok. BUT, this is if and only if you regularly shower your kids with love.

A child who truly knows they are loved, will grow and blossom regardless of whether they are hit (of course, not abusively and only until an appropriate age), yelled at, criticized, or punished.

Whereas, if a child does not feel loved, any form of discipline (which children always see as negative) can have a disastrous effect.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #185 on: February 19, 2014, 07:17:43 PM »
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #186 on: February 19, 2014, 07:21:09 PM »
Didn't read through this thread

@OP,  What's the point of this thread? Are you just curious what others do? Are you looking for parenting  advice? Are you just taking a survey?

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #187 on: February 19, 2014, 09:26:15 PM »
People are so frum when it comes to this.

Why don't we start with the Deoraisas first. Or how about Lashon Hara?
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #188 on: February 19, 2014, 09:27:20 PM »
I have a feeling you just got married. You're a little inexperienced. I see this with 99% of newlyweds. 

Wait, give it time and you'll slowly land from your honeymoon highness.

You'll realize life is not made just of a bed of roses, sometimes we have to hit our spouse, sometimes they hit back.
Thats life, thats what everyone does, thats what your parents did and that's what you'll realize sooner rather than later.
This better be sarcastic.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #189 on: February 19, 2014, 09:27:49 PM »
Married for over 5 years and don't agree with a word of the above. I hope this is sarcastic. Everyone hits their wife? Are you nuts?
chill!!! Of course he was sarcastic,  sheesh.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #190 on: February 19, 2014, 09:27:55 PM »
Married for over 5 years and don't agree with a word of the above. I hope this is sarcastic. Everyone hits their wife? Are you nuts?

You must be from another planet, but meshugener is just not politically correct. He just states the facts of what goes on in every modern household in America. Of course it's not correct to say so, but that's what we all do unfortunately.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #191 on: February 19, 2014, 09:29:31 PM »
I don't know what hurts or not. I obviously don't want to leave marks on my child, but I do want them to remember not to do it again and I think that giving them a small smack on their hand will remind them more then just telling them.
Don't get me wrong I am not into hitting a kid for any reason and because one is short tempered, but I do think it certain cisrcumstances you have to. I have one kid and I can tell you that since she is born I smacked her once or twice and one if thise times was because she ran into the street.
My father never smacked his daughters, ever, only the boys.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #192 on: February 19, 2014, 09:30:32 PM »
chill!!! Of course he was sarcastic,  sheesh.
I deleted my post, only to see that you quoted me. Oh! the shame! I thought he was serious.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #193 on: February 19, 2014, 09:31:00 PM »
You must be from another planet, but meshugener is just not politically correct. He just states the facts of what goes on in every modern household in America. Of course it's not correct to say so, but that's what we all do unfortunately.
better be sarcastic.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #194 on: February 19, 2014, 09:31:14 PM »
I deleted my post, only to see that you quoted me. Oh! the shame! I thought he was serious.
realized and still posted;D
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