Poll

Do you hit your children, and why/why not?

Heck yeah!
11 (14.1%)
Never!
15 (19.2%)
I try not to but when they really get crazy...
9 (11.5%)
Only for Chinuch or life threatening situations.
33 (42.3%)
I don't but my spouse does.
1 (1.3%)
You mean people still do this? *shocked*
9 (11.5%)

Total Members Voted: 78

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #195 on: February 19, 2014, 09:35:08 PM »
My father never smacked his daughters, ever, only the boys.

That seems just a bit silly.

Meanwhile I got potched twice that I remember when I was little.

I have no issue if a person feels the need to potch once in a blue moon. Anything more and you're doing something wrong IMO. It shouldn't be necessary.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #196 on: February 19, 2014, 09:42:10 PM »
That seems just a bit silly.

Meanwhile I got potched twice that I remember when I was little.

I have no issue if a person feels the need to potch once in a blue moon. Anything more and you're doing something wrong IMO. It shouldn't be necessary.
I think there is actually a Rashi that his actions were based on. That to girls you always teach in a positive manner. To boys, sometimes you got to be tough. I never asked him why he never hit the girls. But the distinction is not silly.


(כה תאמר לבית יעקב ותגיד לבני ישראל" (שמות יט-ג

,רש"י - לבית יעקב - אלו הנשים תאמר להן בלשון רכה
ותגיד לבני ישראל - עונשים ודקדוקין פרש לזכרים




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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #197 on: February 19, 2014, 09:43:12 PM »

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #198 on: February 19, 2014, 09:44:36 PM »
If u work for a living, why kill urself working?

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #199 on: February 19, 2014, 09:45:00 PM »
BTW, my kid looks more hurt when I put him in timeout, than when I give him the rare potch.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #200 on: February 19, 2014, 09:45:24 PM »
I think there is actually a Rashi that his actions were based on. That to girls you always teach in a positive manner. To boys, sometimes you got to be tough. I never asked him why he never hit the girls. But the distinction is not silly.


(כה תאמר לבית יעקב ותגיד לבני ישראל" (שמות יט-ג

,רש"י - לבית יעקב - אלו הנשים תאמר להן בלשון רכה
ותגיד לבני ישראל - עונשים ודקדוקין פרש לזכרים

Just a bit silly. It's not that I don't see a distinction between boys and girls.

Maybe girls just listen better. :)
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #201 on: February 19, 2014, 09:48:52 PM »
Just a bit silly. It's not that I don't see a distinction between boys and girls.

Maybe girls just listen better. :)
Even when my sisters did really really bad stuff :)

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #202 on: February 19, 2014, 09:51:50 PM »
BTW, my kid looks more hurt when I put him in timeout, than when I give him the rare potch.

I can hear that. A potch is usually anger or frustration. Those are human traits, and kids can understand and forgive that... Timeout, on the other hand, is rejection. Kids hear "Mom/Dad aren't interested in seeing me now"
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #203 on: February 19, 2014, 09:52:35 PM »
I can hear that. A potch is usually anger or frustration. Those are human traits, and kids can understand and forgive that... Timeout, on the other hand, is rejection.
a potch is NEVER (hopefully) anger or frustration.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #204 on: February 19, 2014, 09:54:09 PM »
a potch is NEVER (hopefully) anger or frustration.

C'mon. I think it usually is. I'm not saying that's the sole reason, but that is usually what fuels it.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #205 on: February 19, 2014, 09:55:17 PM »

C'mon. I think it usually is. I'm not saying that's the sole reason, but that is usually what fuels it.
in that case it is certainly is wrong

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #206 on: February 19, 2014, 09:55:57 PM »
It's not always like that. I know plenty of kids who know when their parents potch it means they are really not happy with you. My cousin gives a light slap on the hand. The kids get so insulted. It hurts their feelings more than anything.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #207 on: February 19, 2014, 09:56:08 PM »
C'mon. I think it usually is. I'm not saying that's the sole reason, but that is usually what fuels it.
Then it's wrong. If to potch or not to potch is not a big decision by you, than you should never potch. I don't think you should potch on the spur of the moment.

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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #208 on: February 19, 2014, 10:03:21 PM »
I'm not saying potching is ideal.

I'm saying there are far worse things a parent can do to their child than a small potch, even one that is caused by anger or frustration.
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Re: Do you hit your kids?
« Reply #209 on: February 19, 2014, 10:04:58 PM »
I'm not saying potching is ideal.

I'm saying there are far worse things a parent can do to their child a small potch, even one that is caused by anger or frustration.

I've seen People potch their kids out of frustration and I've seen people potch out of frustration/anger/dislike  and it's different.
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