Do you hit your kids?

[sky121]

My father never smacked his daughters, ever, only the boys.

That seems just a bit silly.

Meanwhile I got potched twice that I remember when I was little.

I have no issue if a person feels the need to potch once in a blue moon. Anything more and you're doing something wrong IMO. It shouldn't be necessary.

[Baruch]

That seems just a bit silly.

Meanwhile I got potched twice that I remember when I was little.

I have no issue if a person feels the need to potch once in a blue moon. Anything more and you're doing something wrong IMO. It shouldn't be necessary.

I think there is actually a Rashi that his actions were based on. That to girls you always teach in a positive manner. To boys, sometimes you got to be tough. I never asked him why he never hit the girls. But the distinction is not silly.


(כה תאמר לבית יעקב ותגיד לבני ישראל" (שמות יט-ג

,רש"י - לבית יעקב - אלו הנשים תאמר להן בלשון רכה
ותגיד לבני ישראל - עונשים ודקדוקין פרש לזכרים

[Baruch]

realized and still posted;D

mean!

[Myccrabbi]

mean!

ya, sometimes:P

[Baruch]

BTW, my kid looks more hurt when I put him in timeout, than when I give him the rare potch.

[sky121]

I think there is actually a Rashi that his actions were based on. That to girls you always teach in a positive manner. To boys, sometimes you got to be tough. I never asked him why he never hit the girls. But the distinction is not silly.


(כה תאמר לבית יעקב ותגיד לבני ישראל" (שמות יט-ג

,רש"י - לבית יעקב - אלו הנשים תאמר להן בלשון רכה
ותגיד לבני ישראל - עונשים ודקדוקין פרש לזכרים

Just a bit silly. It's not that I don't see a distinction between boys and girls.

Maybe girls just listen better.

[Baruch]

Just a bit silly. It's not that I don't see a distinction between boys and girls.

Maybe girls just listen better.

Even when my sisters did really really bad stuff

[wayfe]

BTW, my kid looks more hurt when I put him in timeout, than when I give him the rare potch.

I can hear that. A potch is usually anger or frustration. Those are human traits, and kids can understand and forgive that... Timeout, on the other hand, is rejection. Kids hear "Mom/Dad aren't interested in seeing me now"

[Baruch]

I can hear that. A potch is usually anger or frustration. Those are human traits, and kids can understand and forgive that... Timeout, on the other hand, is rejection.

a potch is NEVER (hopefully) anger or frustration.

[wayfe]

a potch is NEVER (hopefully) anger or frustration.

C'mon. I think it usually is. I'm not saying that's the sole reason, but that is usually what fuels it.

[elit]

C'mon. I think it usually is. I'm not saying that's the sole reason, but that is usually what fuels it.

in that case it is certainly is wrong

[sky121]

It's not always like that. I know plenty of kids who know when their parents potch it means they are really not happy with you. My cousin gives a light slap on the hand. The kids get so insulted. It hurts their feelings more than anything.

[Baruch]

C'mon. I think it usually is. I'm not saying that's the sole reason, but that is usually what fuels it.

Then it's wrong. If to potch or not to potch is not a big decision by you, than you should never potch. I don't think you should potch on the spur of the moment.

[wayfe]

I'm not saying potching is ideal.

I'm saying there are far worse things a parent can do to their child than a small potch, even one that is caused by anger or frustration.

[sky121]

I'm not saying potching is ideal.

I'm saying there are far worse things a parent can do to their child a small potch, even one that is caused by anger or frustration.

I've seen People potch their kids out of frustration and I've seen people potch out of frustration/anger/dislike  and it's different.