Author Topic: New Shidduch Idea (Read 70901 times)

SamKey · « **Reply #80 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:13:17 PM »

Quote from: sky121 on March 04, 2014, 11:12:43 PM

Deaf. Young and dumb is the way to go.

FTFY?

chevron · « **Reply #81 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:14:47 PM »

Quote from: sky121 on March 04, 2014, 11:11:59 PM

Lets make a shidduch!! I'm sure we can find a nice girl for you somewhere on the forums.

Not gonna happen, I can cook, live alone, have an income, travel the world and enough hobbies to keep me happy.

Marriage is boring

sky121 · « **Reply #82 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:15:01 PM »

Quote from: SamKey on March 04, 2014, 11:13:17 PM

FTFY?

Lol not exactly.

sky121 · « **Reply #83 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:15:32 PM »

Quote from: chevron on March 04, 2014, 11:14:47 PM

Not gonna happen, I can cook, live alone, have an income, travel the world and enough hobbies to keep me happy.

Marriage is boring

So you just don't want to get married?
Interesting.

Dan · « **Reply #84 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:19:00 PM »

Quote from: chevron on March 04, 2014, 11:14:47 PM

Not gonna happen, I can cook, live alone, have an income, travel the world and enough hobbies to keep me happy.

Marriage is boring

With that attitude I'm not shocked that you're single. Don't you think you give off those vibes when you date?

Marriage is meant to be fulfilling and rewarding in the long term by making someone else happy and hopefully reaping what you sow. It's not something to just occupy your time and make you happy.

churnbabychurn · « **Reply #85 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:20:22 PM »

Wait, he was being serious?!

sky121 · « **Reply #86 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:20:36 PM »

+1
Then again kudos for knowing what you want and not causing some girl unnecessary misery.

chevron · « **Reply #87 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:20:44 PM »

Quote from: Dan on March 04, 2014, 11:11:15 PM

Makes sense. I do think the older girls tend to be more "normal" than the older guys on the market.

Though I think people naturally get pickier with each passing date as they realize traits they don't like and that makes things more difficult.
Odds of a "green" girl agreeing to marriage is much higher than one who has been out with many guys.

You know, years ago in the pale of the settlement, people rarely traveled.. nowdays thanks to you, we are traversing the globe in record numbers, we are seeing new stuff, experiencing etc.

I tell my grandma i'm going to hawaii, she smiles and asks if i'm going to see pearl harbor (her husband, my grandfather fought in ww2)
I tell my mother, she thinks im crazy and wasting money.

I see frum girls, they are DYING to get married AND *drum roll* have 7,8,9 or more kids.. GREAT.. I want to enjoy marriage first, please ?

Ergel · « **Reply #88 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:21:17 PM »

Quote from: Dan on March 04, 2014, 11:19:00 PM

With that attitude I'm not shocked that you're single. Don't you think you give off those vibes when you date?

Marriage is meant to be fulfilling and rewarding in the long term by making someone else happy and hopefully reaping what you sow. It's not something to just occupy your time and make you happy.

Where is my don't feed the trolls sign when I need it

sky121 · « **Reply #89 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:22:17 PM »

Quote from: chevron on March 04, 2014, 11:20:44 PM

You know, years ago in the pale of the settlement, people rarely traveled.. nowdays thanks to you, we are traversing the globe in record numbers, we are seeing new stuff, experiencing etc.

I tell my grandma i'm going to hawaii, she smiles and asks if i'm going to see pearl harbor (her husband, my grandfather fought in ww2)
I tell my mother, she thinks im crazy and wasting money.

I see frum girls, they are DYING to get married AND *drum roll* have 7,8,9 or more kids.. GREAT.. I want to enjoy marriage first, please ?

There are plenty of girls not like that.
Sounds like you may have just been exposed to a certain kind of marriage. One you aren't intersted in. There are more kinds of people in the world than the ones you're describing.

Ergel · « **Reply #90 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:22:29 PM »

Quote from: chevron on March 04, 2014, 11:14:47 PM

Not gonna happen, I can cook, live alone, have an income, travel the world and enough hobbies to keep me happy.

Marriage is boring

You yada yada yada'd over the best part

Dan · « **Reply #91 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:22:45 PM »

Quote from: Ergel on March 04, 2014, 11:21:17 PM

Where is my don't feed the trolls sign when I need it

I'm still on the fence, perhaps you're right.

chevron · « **Reply #92 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:23:34 PM »

Quote from: Dan on March 04, 2014, 11:19:00 PM

With that attitude I'm not shocked that you're single. Don't you think you give off those vibes when you date?

Marriage is meant to be fulfilling and rewarding in the long term by making someone else happy and hopefully reaping what you sow. It's not something to just occupy your time and make you happy.

When you get older, you think differently, you mostly gravitate to a comfort zone and you need someone to pull you out, that someone is you're bashert

churnbabychurn · « **Reply #93 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:24:03 PM »

There is an enjoyment in giving to others. A satisfaction you cannot get by simply always taking.

Happiness is much more complex than a simply "having fun"...

bubbles · « **Reply #94 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:24:14 PM »

Quote from: Saver2000 on March 04, 2014, 10:36:51 PM

Wow. Can't believe there are so many people here not familiar with the "age gap" situation. It's a real thing. It's not made up.

http://forums.dansdeals.com/index.php?topic=23873.msg578908#msg578908

and

http://usgovinfo.about.com/od/censusandstatistics/a/moreboys.htm

sky121 · « **Reply #95 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:24:38 PM »

In general I think it's unhelpful when guys get married when they DON'T feel like anything is missing in their lives.

chevron · « **Reply #96 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:28:13 PM »

Quote from: sky121 on March 04, 2014, 11:22:17 PM

There are plenty of girls not like that.
Sounds like you may have just been exposed to a certain kind of marriage. One you aren't intersted in. There are more kinds of people in the world than the ones you're describing.

Firstly,
I swear im not trolling. 2nd, I dont care to get in to the details here, but I have been exposed too much to society.

I am trying to address various friends I have, many are single, some are suffering others are thriving.

I'll be honest here that many of the people im thinking of in my posts, see nothing wrong with being single at 24 or 25, I think we may be looking at this from different angles

churnbabychurn · « **Reply #97 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:30:00 PM »

Quote from: chevron on March 04, 2014, 11:28:13 PM

I think we may be looking at this from different angles

+1 to that!

sky121 · « **Reply #98 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:30:06 PM »

You said you were older. I wasn't thinking 24, 25. I see nothing wrong with a guy taking some time before marriage.
You just sounded completely uninterested.

Dan · « **Reply #99 on:** March 04, 2014, 11:31:01 PM »

Quote from: chevron on March 04, 2014, 11:23:34 PM

When you get older, you think differently, you mostly gravitate to a comfort zone and you need someone to pull you out, that someone is you're bashert

Exactly why older singles tend to stay single. They become set in their ways and aren't interested in changing. And that's evident from the couple of dates they begrudgingly agree to go on.
Your bashert will be sent like the boat to the person drowning who dies waiving it off as Gd himself will save him.