If 50% of the Jews are concentrated in a small area, and that area is historically a hotbed for violence, especially against Jews, and especially when Jews have been concentrated there, you can't infer anything about Zionism.
Here's what I don't get from all the anti-State people. Ignore that Jews are in the government. You chose to live in EY, and there's a random secular government in place. Why treat them any differently than you would a non-Jewish government, especially if they are committed to your physical safety? We would never have the chutzpah to be so anti-government in any other country. Law and order is a reality in every country. Requirements to serve in the military were the norm until 60 years ago, and are still the norm for any country at war.
You are generally 100% correct. Jews should not try to change the country they are in.
There are just 3 things going on:
1) The Chareidi position was always to try to keep status quo. There was no draft for Yeshiva Bochurim for the past 75 years in Israel and most of the world that has drafts. In Israel, the exemption was recently knocked down. In the US, if they started drafting and stopped giving a divinity exemption you can be sure that the frum community would fight it.
2) Eretz Yisroel is not any other country. Its the land Hashem gave us. Why should we leave because 100 years ago some Porkei Ole decided to come in and start up with the Arabs and make it miserable for everyone?
3) This is not about yes draft or no draft. In the US, they have a draft because they need soldiers. Here they want to Shmad up the Chareidim (and everyone else). This is a Milchemes Mitzva like the Chashmonaim against the Hellenists where, yes, the Jews did fight against the Greek rulers.
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