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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #20 on: June 20, 2014, 01:08:26 PM »
Hmm, I'm not so sure that looking after the house and kids is considered מלאכת נשים
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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #21 on: June 20, 2014, 01:28:04 PM »
I took my kids to a babysitter in her house.  Her retired husband was warmer with the kids and played with them better than she did. ( Didn't stay with her too long.)
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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #22 on: June 20, 2014, 01:30:54 PM »
Can I ask you a question. After a day of watching one kid, do you feel accomplished? And why you a stay at home dad?
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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #23 on: June 20, 2014, 02:03:55 PM »
Playing with kids is one thing. Being responsible for them and the house all day, every day is another.
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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #24 on: June 20, 2014, 02:05:09 PM »
I'm not a stay at home dad, but for two years I watched my kids every Sunday while my wife went to college. (Sunday college).

Was not easy, but somehow once you know they are your responsibility for the whole day, you become a lot more patient and less anxious about when your wife is going to come home to "relieve" you.

I kind of agree with the "מלאכת נשים" comment, but it seems like in today's day and age, many נשים are not either cut out for it.

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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #25 on: June 20, 2014, 02:06:08 PM »
Hmm, I'm not so sure that looking after the house and kids is considered מלאכת נשים

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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #26 on: June 20, 2014, 02:08:11 PM »

, but it seems like in today's day and age, many נשים are not either cut out for it.

+1 It's a selfless job, and I see as well many women not having in them to give that much.

My mother works in a preschool and you should see the non working mother's who go crazy when there is a vacation day and 'what are they gonna do with their kids all day'.
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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #27 on: June 20, 2014, 02:09:02 PM »
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With the ever increasing amount of נשים that have zero patience for their kids, I might have to say that it's not anymore "exclusively" מלאכת נשים.

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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #28 on: June 20, 2014, 02:11:44 PM »
+1 It's a selfless job, and I see as well many women not having in them to give that much.

My mother works in a preschool and you should see the non working mother's who go crazy when there is a vacation day and 'what are they gonna do with their kids all day'.

True, but it's always easier to watch someone else's kids in a school environment. It's your own kids at home that drive you insane. (You can confirm this with your mom.)

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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #29 on: June 20, 2014, 02:21:29 PM »
Can I ask you a question. After a day of watching one kid, do you feel accomplished? And why you a stay at home dad?

No I am not. I am wondering what its like.
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In todays society many women are professionals. Therefore one parent needs to be home with the kids it maybe a better financial decision for the mom to work if she has a better job.
I'm not a stay at home dad, but for two years I watched my kids every Sunday while my wife went to college. (Sunday college).

Was not easy, but somehow once you know they are your responsibility for the whole day, you become a lot more patient and less anxious about when your wife is going to come home to "relieve" you.
It could be a very different feeling knowing that this is your responsibility, to take care of the kids and home.

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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #30 on: June 20, 2014, 04:22:54 PM »
Managing a home full of kids is a nightmare for many men. It entails multitasking on a level that most men are  simply incapable of. 
I personally can't fold laundry, hold a crying baby, and give snacks to the other whining children while something is burning in the oven...  Aaagh! :)

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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #31 on: June 20, 2014, 04:32:27 PM »
Managing a home full of kids is a nightmare for many men. It entails multitasking on a level that most men are  simply incapable of. 
I personally can't fold laundry, hold a crying baby, and give snacks to the other whining children while something is burning in the oven...  Aaagh! :)
can't or won't? as for the whining kids see LoveAndLogic.com def. helped me both in the classroom and at home. changed my whole mindset

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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #32 on: June 20, 2014, 04:38:30 PM »
I think most fathers could handle it if they did it everyday
I find it gets hard when you need to do it 1 or 2 days once in awhile because then you are not used it to it and the kids know that you don't normally do it and can get more out of hand

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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #33 on: June 20, 2014, 04:44:21 PM »
can't or won't? as for the whining kids see LoveAndLogic.com def. helped me both in the classroom and at home. changed my whole mindset
Could and would if necessary, but would be very difficult.

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Re: Stay at home Dads.
« Reply #34 on: June 23, 2014, 12:27:45 AM »
I think most fathers could handle it if they did it everyday
I find it gets hard when you need to do it 1 or 2 days once in awhile because then you are not used it to it and the kids know that you don't normally do it and can get more out of hand
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Could and would if necessary, but would be very difficult.
It could be a very different feeling knowing that this is your responsibility, to take care of the kids and home.