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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #60 on: September 22, 2014, 02:43:52 PM »
Me: Did you know that there are 613 mitzvos?
4 year old son: Wow! that's old, they must be already niftar :)
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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #61 on: September 22, 2014, 02:44:17 PM »
Morah: where are you going for yom tov?
Kid: for the first days we're going to my parents, and for the second days we're going to my inlaws

im guessing Kid is not married ;)

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #62 on: September 22, 2014, 02:47:35 PM »
im guessing Kid is not married ;)
:)
Most married Kids don't have Morahs anymore
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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #63 on: September 22, 2014, 03:15:23 PM »
:)
Most married Kids don't have Morahs anymore
That depends on who they married... :P

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #64 on: September 22, 2014, 03:20:00 PM »
My 3 year old daughter saw a picture of me at my chupah wearing a kittel and said, "Ta your the Dr?"

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #65 on: September 22, 2014, 04:03:41 PM »
My 3 year old daughter saw a picture of me at my chupah wearing a kittel and said, "Ta your the Dr?"

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #66 on: September 22, 2014, 04:06:43 PM »
You know how kids tend to distort facts when repeating an incident/story.
I heard a 5 year old kid telling his sister about how an infertile couple had gone to the rebbe to request his blessing for a child. He was trying to show how effective the rebbe's prayers were so he told her that, " the rebbe did not even finish bentching them when they got a call from the hospital that they can come pick up a baby."

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #67 on: September 22, 2014, 04:11:11 PM »
Man, I hope Rafi doesn't know about death for many years.
An old post, but I never got the point of this? Why is death such a bad thing? You'll just teach the kid to be terrified of it.
And what happens to Haman at the end of the Purim story? Or Yaakov at the end of vayechi? I hate it when the morah's teach my kids that Vashti was "sent away"
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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #68 on: September 22, 2014, 04:15:02 PM »
Plenty of tzoros in this world and things to worry about as you age. What does a 3 year old gain by knowing about death?
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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #69 on: September 22, 2014, 04:32:35 PM »
Plenty of tzoros in this world and things to worry about as you age. What does a 3 year old gain by knowing about death?
What does he lose from knowing about death, especially when it's taught that it's not something scary

Again
what happens to Haman at the end of the Purim story? Or Yaakov at the end of vayechi? I hate it when the morah's teach my kids that Vashti was "sent away"
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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #70 on: September 22, 2014, 04:36:22 PM »
Plenty of tzoros in this world and things to worry about as you age. What does a 3 year old gain by knowing about death?
+1   the subject of death doesn't sit well with most young children
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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #71 on: September 22, 2014, 04:36:30 PM »
An old post, but I never got the point of this? Why is death such a bad thing? You'll just teach the kid to be terrified of it.
And what happens to Haman at the end of the Purim story? Or Yaakov at the end of vayechi? I hate it when the morah's teach my kids that Vashti was "sent away"

there is a big difference when a kid hears that Moshe Rabbeni died or that haman was killed vs "your pet/grandparent/neighbor passed away". it's a lot closer to home and can raise some big questions. it can also scare the kid that doesn't fully understand: 1- that disease is everywhere. or 2- that car accidents happen (then why do we still drive??) or that 3- people do bad things to each other (war, murder, etc.).

my father passed away when i was very young. believe me- my mother and grandparents did my little sister (she was 8 yrs old) a big favor by not explaining it all to her. as she got older and asked some more questions we all helped her understand a little bit of it.
i should point out that nobody lied to her. we just beat around the bush a little bit.
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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #72 on: September 22, 2014, 04:49:19 PM »
as soon as he sees the lion king he will know about death
or if his pet fish dies (if he has one)
As soon as my kids went to kindergarten, they started learning about death, from the Parsha stories

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #73 on: September 23, 2014, 09:13:30 AM »
for a lot of kids the lion king does a good job or when they lose their first goldfish

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #74 on: September 23, 2014, 02:16:39 PM »

BTW your quote from Albert Einstein - "If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough", is said in the name of Rav Chaim Brisker too - Oyb es felt in hasbara, es felt in Havanah.

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #75 on: September 23, 2014, 02:21:48 PM »
BTW your quote from Albert Einstein - "If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough", is said in the name of Rav Chaim Brisker too - Oyb es felt in hasbara, es felt in Havanah.
If Einstein actually said it that would be pretty ironic seeing as he wrote a theory that only 3 people were said to understand at the time...

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #76 on: September 23, 2014, 02:30:00 PM »
still a cool phrase  :D
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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #77 on: September 23, 2014, 03:03:34 PM »
Death is fundamental to understanding life. These concepts need to be ingrained, the earlier the better.
As soon as they can grasp the concept, throw it at them.


-Maybe even earlier. See ramban  in parshas nitzavim by mitzvah of hakel. Basically explains that kids come at a certain age even though they cannot fully understand now, because in the future the will have יראת שמים because they attended.
Also see chaggiga 3a. 

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #78 on: September 23, 2014, 04:36:09 PM »
Death is fundamental to understanding life. These concepts need to be ingrained, the earlier the better.
As soon as they can grasp the concept, throw it at them.


-Maybe even earlier. See ramban  in parshas nitzavim by mitzvah of hakel. Basically explains that kids come at a certain age even though they cannot fully understand now, because in the future the will have יראת שמים because they attended.
Also see chaggiga 3a.
You can ingrain schar veonesh, without focusing on death.
BTW, my Rosh Yeshiva told me to stress schar much more than onesh.

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Re: Stuff Your Kid Tells You
« Reply #79 on: September 23, 2014, 04:38:01 PM »
3 year olds don't need to hear how Achashverosh killed Vashti. That's just my opinion.
I would be happy if they didn't start teaching parsha to kids until they were a bit older and even though passing over certain concepts until they can be understood better.
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