What about guys?
Prevalent, but not nearly as big of a problem for a few reasons. Most girls saying no after 1 date don't have a real reason other than "they don't see it working out" or just something "they feel" (or they just find an excuse which isn't really what they think, but is the closest thing they can grab onto) which is a purely emotional reaction to something which is often irrelevant and often is calmed on the second date when guys with limited exposure to the opposite gender get slightly more comfortable. The guys they feel comfortable with immediately are often smoother from "too much" exposure if you know what I mean. Which is great for dates 1,2, and maybe 3, but then they start realizing what type of person he is and can't marry him.
Guys on the other hand are more likely (although not always) to have a logical reason if they are saying no after 1. Might be a nareshkeit, but the odds of that nareshkeit going away after a second date are less, so it's less of a solution to push them on a second date.
In all fairness, in nearly every one of my "one and done" dates, both sides mutually agreed that there was no point to a second. It's not always the girl.
Of course there are guys that say no after 1 date, but as history and hollywood have proven its rarely mutual. Both genders can feel the need to jump the gun. Guys as a sense of macho pride, and girls as not to get burned emotionally. Most people can pick up when the other side will say no. However if there was a 2 date minimum rule, then people can put aside the race of who can say no first and actually decide on whether they themselves are interested in moving on without trying to figure out what the other parties answer will be.
I agree 100%
When I set people up (Thankfully we've made a bunch of shidduchim by now) I have a condition of 2 dates, otherwise I will not set up the guy/girl ever again
I got this hadracha from my rabbi and I strongly believe in it & it has proven itself a whole bunch of times
Not to say there cant be that one exception every now and then when a person knows for certain that they are turned off by the guy/girl they were set up with but as a general rule I believe one should always give another date.
Wow. I'm glad there is someone who agrees with me. Every rosh yeshiva (from ads in Jewish magazines, that doesn't seem to mean much) and major shadchan I went to agreed with me. The shadchanim all told me the same thing. If they would implement a rule like that they would lose most of their business to the competition. I've offered to bet single girls if they say yes to a second date for a year and are still not married. Not one was willing to take the bet. Seems like most of them realize this issue deep down