+1.
But I love how everyone is paskening without ever learning the halachos.
There is ashach who says that mesayeah (as opposed to lifnei ever) does not apply to a mumar. There is a dispute as to whether we pasken like this schach. AYLOR
1. How do you know what people have asked or not asked a rov? That's mighty presumptuous of you.
2. Even if they haven't asked a rov, everything that has a heter has to be done? What's your problem with Jews expressing extra sensitivity?
3. Since I mention sensitivity, I know you had a tayva to quote that sha"ch, but did you also have to whip out that "mumar" language. Even if you hadn't noticed that people on this thread mentioned that the shayla came up with non-frum relatives, it would still be insensitive.
That's all.