I finally spoke to a AA awards rep at 6pm on sat who said my only option was to pay $150 to reinstate the miles and from the $80 fee they will return $11 to my credit card. I am happy I was able to do this even though I had to pay out in order to get it done.
I don't think I understood what happened here.
Did you realize she was booked on the wrong date after the flight departed?
Are you booking her a new flight?
Because the $150 fee you paid was the cancellation/miles reinstatement fee.
As I mentioned earlier, you could have changed the dates for free (not so easy though if the departure time has passed)