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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

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ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #140 on: May 17, 2015, 11:33:34 PM »
http://he.wikipedia.org/wiki/פינחס

I once heard that קנאות is like a needle, if it has a hole on top you can sew with it, otherwise you can only use it to poke.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #141 on: May 17, 2015, 11:38:17 PM »
It's interesting that this whole thing happened this past Shabbos. Behasgachah Pratis the Hayom Yom for Friday (26 Sivan) gave guidelines for how to do the Mitzvah of Hocheach Tochiach:

קודם ציווי הוכח תוכיח, כתיב ולא תשנא את אחיך, כי זהו תנאי מוקדם להוכחה. ואח"ז [ואחר זה] כתיב ולא תשא עליו חטא, שאם לא פעלה ההוכחה, בודאי אתה האשם, שלא היו דברים היוצאים מן הלב.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #142 on: May 17, 2015, 11:39:34 PM »
So that those making the Mechaah can say Ani Es Nafshi Hitzalti and let the rest go to...?
Don't believe that is the attitude here. There is real pain and sympathy in Lakewood for these kids and their families;maybe not everyone, but it's there and I think most of these kids have come across such attitudes as well.
Again, the blatant chillul Shabbos cannot just be ignored. I think it's not really the same exact issue...

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #143 on: May 17, 2015, 11:42:04 PM »
Don't believe that is the attitude here. There is real pain and sympathy in Lakewood for these kids and their families;maybe not everyone, but it's there and I think most of these kids have come across such attitudes as well.
Again, the blatant chillul Shabbos cannot just be ignored. I think it's not really the same exact issue...
I want doubting that there are those in Lakewood who care about these kids, I was just questioning the attitude of making a Machaah for the sake of Machaah...

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #144 on: May 17, 2015, 11:49:00 PM »
When you say the tefillah of the Shila"h, have these kids and their parents in mind.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #145 on: May 17, 2015, 11:49:23 PM »


Don't believe that is the attitude here. There is real pain and sympathy in Lakewood for these kids and their families;maybe not everyone, but it's there and I think most of these kids have come across such attitudes as well.
Again, the blatant chillul Shabbos cannot just be ignored. I think it's not really the same exact issue...

That attitude comes from few people the overwhelming majority of Lakewood is not accepting of them and instead of just being nice and smiling at them they stare them down for wearing jeans
As far as allowing chillul shabbos goes, before deciding to make a protest the first thing to think about is what am I trying to accomplish and will it be accomplished and the clear answer to that question to anyone who understands the situation is no
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #146 on: May 17, 2015, 11:49:50 PM »
I want doubting that there are those in Lakewood who care about these kids, I was just questioning the attitude of making a Machaah for the sake of Machaah...
Which you seem to have assumed was the reason for organizing this
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #147 on: May 17, 2015, 11:52:43 PM »
Which you seem to have assumed was the reason for organizing this
I was replying to this:
I once heard an interesting thought in regards to the many macho's made in eretz yisroel about chillul shabbos. The purpose is not to change the action of those being mechallel shabbos but to make sure that one does not become desensitized to the big deal that it is.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #148 on: May 18, 2015, 12:15:46 AM »

That attitude comes from few people the overwhelming majority of Lakewood is not accepting of them and instead of just being nice and smiling at them they stare them down for wearing jeans
As far as allowing chillul shabbos goes, before deciding to make a protest the first thing to think about is what am I trying to accomplish and will it be accomplished and the clear answer to that question to anyone who understands the situation is no
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #149 on: May 18, 2015, 12:23:27 AM »
I don't know how you define C"H, but IMHO anytime a yid does not act the way g-d intended, and causes others - even Jews - to look at klal Yisroel in a bad light, that is a chillul hashem !!!
First off, it's not a matter of opinion but Halacha. Second, no offense meant but from your remarks it's clear you're not well aware of these halachos bec in actuality the MAIN din of chillul hashem is with other Jews, not non Jews. Now this isn't a discussion for now but look in the halachos and you'll be hard pressed to show how peaceful shabbos protests, whether you agree with them or not, can possibly fall under the geder chillul hashem.
People throw around the term like its catch phrase or something and it's not. It's a set of halachos.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #150 on: May 18, 2015, 12:31:24 AM »
I once heard an interesting thought in regards to the many macho's made in eretz yisroel about chillul shabbos. The purpose is not to change the action of those being mechallel shabbos but to make sure that one does not become desensitized to the big deal that it is.
I believe it was the Brisker Rav.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #151 on: May 18, 2015, 01:13:24 AM »
First off, it's not a matter of opinion but Halacha. Second, no offense meant but from your remarks it's clear you're not well aware of these halachos bec in actuality the MAIN din of chillul hashem is with other Jews, not non Jews. Now this isn't a discussion for now but look in the halachos and you'll be hard pressed to show how peaceful shabbos protests, whether you agree with them or not, can possibly fall under the geder chillul hashem.
People throw around the term like its catch phrase or something and it's not. It's a set of halachos.
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IN THE DAYS OF CHAZAL EVERY ONE OF THESE KIDS WOULD BE STONED TO DEATH.
that does not make it not sad or heartbreaking , but these kids are doing wicked sins.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #152 on: May 18, 2015, 01:15:43 AM »
+10000
IN THE DAYS OF CHAZAL EVERY ONE OF THESE KIDS WOULD BE STONED TO DEATH.
that does not make it not sad or heartbreaking , but these kids are doing wicked sins.
I will ask you the same question I asked everyone who took that position or a similar position
Do you know any of them?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #153 on: May 18, 2015, 01:16:14 AM »
if these kids got together and raped passer byes , ...
would avromie7 be proudly saying , he is on level6 ?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #154 on: May 18, 2015, 01:18:00 AM »
if these kids got together and raped passer byes , ...
would avromie7 be proudly saying , he is on level6 ?
If it was your kid would you still say that?
Please answer honestly
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #155 on: May 18, 2015, 01:18:46 AM »
i am not saying i have a solution , but the way you proudly defend ppl , who nebach are doing
absolutely vile behaviours is SHAMEFULL !
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #156 on: May 18, 2015, 01:21:01 AM »


i am not saying i have a solution , but the way you proudly defend ppl , who nebach are doing
absolutely vile behaviours is SHAMEFULL !

The way you defend those who have no interested in helping them out and instead want to push them further away is a definitely a lot more shameful than trying to help out those who have been burned because they don't fit in the cookie cutter
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #157 on: May 18, 2015, 01:22:40 AM »
if someones son was CHILD MOLESTER or a WIFE ABUSER .....
would they be shocked if ppl protested ???

you dont care enough about shabbos  ! (level6)
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #158 on: May 18, 2015, 01:23:44 AM »
+10000
IN THE DAYS OF CHAZAL EVERY ONE OF THESE KIDS WOULD BE STONED TO DEATH.
that does not make it not sad or heartbreaking , but these kids are doing wicked sins.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #159 on: May 18, 2015, 01:29:28 AM »
IN THE DAYS OF CHAZAL EVERY ONE OF THESE KIDS WOULD BE STONED TO DEATH.
Highly unlikely.
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