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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

Lakewood shabbos DO (singing kah echsof in the park, while smoking electric cigarettes using a shabbos switch

Confirmed:
Grodnoking (Need a shabbos switch for my Ecig, who can bring one?)

Probable:

Impossible:
henche


תניא פרק ל"ב

ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #260 on: May 18, 2015, 02:00:03 PM »
Not sure what you are saying. This was a protest. It was the very definition of a peaceful one.
Indeed. What have things come to that a peaceful protest of regular chillul shabbos gets attacked for being insensitive? Fellows this is public chillul shabbos it's serious business. These people have special dinim in Halacha and it's not something to be taken lightly. You can disagree with the protesters methods but you can't dismiss or attack them. There comes a point where people have to stop beating around the bush. Enough of the pacifism-it has its place and this isn't it.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #261 on: May 18, 2015, 02:00:48 PM »
Singing next to them is aggressive?
Confrontational, yes.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #262 on: May 18, 2015, 02:07:56 PM »
Indeed. What have things come to that a peaceful protest of regular chillul shabbos gets attacked for being insensitive? Fellows this is public chillul shabbos it's serious business. These people have special dinim in Halacha and it's not something to be taken lightly. You can disagree with the protesters methods but you can't dismiss or attack them. There comes a point where people have to stop beating around the bush. Enough of the pacifism-it has its place and this isn't it.
Oh, suddenly you know what the dinim are. I suppose you're referring to moridin v'ein maalin at the end of Choshen Mishpat. And if that's really what you think, then the entire spirit of the "protest/rally/kumzitz" is b'etzem aggressive, violent, and threatening.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #263 on: May 18, 2015, 02:09:24 PM »
Indeed. What have things come to that a peaceful protest of regular chillul shabbos gets attacked for being insensitive? Fellows this is public chillul shabbos it's serious business. These people have special dinim in Halacha and it's not something to be taken lightly. You can disagree with the protesters methods but you can't dismiss or attack them. There comes a point where people have to stop beating around the bush. Enough of the pacifism-it has its place and this isn't it.
Pls share these dinim with us?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #264 on: May 18, 2015, 02:13:21 PM »


It's very hard to teach someone how special shabbos is when people they know are openly defying it, and going unanswered.

Really, that's why your kids don't appreciate how special shabbos . I'm sure this week shabbos in lakewood iselin to be something else... Bc it had nothing to do with how their own parents feel about and treat shabbos....
These arguments are so pathetic but it dues help highlight how sing it is

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #265 on: May 18, 2015, 02:15:02 PM »
Oh, suddenly you know what the dinim are. I suppose you're referring to moridin v'ein maalin at the end of Choshen Mishpat. And if that's really what you think, then the entire spirit of the "protest/rally/kumzitz" is b'etzem aggressive, violent, and threatening.
No I'm referring to their dinim like in terms of shechitah that they have the din of goyim that their shechitah is pasul.
And all I'm saying is that this is serious stuff. When someone has a din of a goy there's more to it than apologetics. Even if it's caused by "XYZ" when there's something this serious going on in a community they have every right (maybe even obligation) to protest it.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #266 on: May 18, 2015, 02:19:20 PM »
No I'm referring to their dinim like in terms of shechitah that they have the din of goyim that their shechitah is pasul.
And all I'm saying is that this is serious stuff. When someone has a din of a goy there's more to it than apologetics. Even if it's caused by "XYZ" when there's something this serious going on in a community they have every right (maybe even obligation) to protest it.
Nu, so don't eat their shechita.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #267 on: May 18, 2015, 02:19:45 PM »
Oh, suddenly you know what the dinim are. I suppose you're referring to moridin v'ein maalin at the end of Choshen Mishpat. And if that's really what you think, then the entire spirit of the "protest/rally/kumzitz" is b'etzem aggressive, violent, and threatening.
In fact they're no that obscure look and you shall find. For starters-not metzaref to minyan, pasul shechitah.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #268 on: May 18, 2015, 02:21:29 PM »

In fact they're no that obscure look and you shall find. For starters-not metzaref to minyan, pasul shechitah.

So these kids are trying to be part of your minyan? How terrible.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #269 on: May 18, 2015, 02:23:04 PM »
Nu, so don't eat their shechita.
That's not the point. They're grouped with idol worshipers and people who eat treif להכעיס. Public chillul shabbos is one of the most severe aveiros in the Torah, enough to classify such people together with idol worshipers. That's serious. That's not the place for excuses and reasons. If they were being מזנה with עריות in public what would your reaction be-keep it up? Well this is even worse.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #270 on: May 18, 2015, 02:35:06 PM »
That's not the point. They're grouped with idol worshipers and people who eat treif להכעיס. Public chillul shabbos is one of the most severe aveiros in the Torah, enough to classify such people together with idol worshipers. That's serious. That's not the place for excuses and reasons. If they were being מזנה with עריות in public what would your reaction be-keep it up? Well this is even worse.
Do these halachos apply to a nirdaf?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #271 on: May 18, 2015, 02:38:29 PM »
Do these halachos apply to a nirdaf?
Not sure what a nirdaf has to do with this. If you mean that someone is forcing him on penalty of death then no (at least in some cases). If not then absolutely yes. There are no excuses in halacha (he was abused etc etc). It's perfectly clear cut and even when the excuse makes sense to you (which I admit sometimes it does) it makes zero difference. Public chillul shabbos (in front of yidden) is a red line that must never be crossed.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #272 on: May 18, 2015, 02:39:00 PM »
Can someone please help me differentiate between this and Massey Zimry?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #273 on: May 18, 2015, 02:43:49 PM »
Can someone please help me differentiate between this and Massey Zimry?
Yes. The din of קנאין פוגעין בו (in effect a death penalty in the hands of the public) doesn't apply. That's where the difference starts and ends. Both are otherwise intentional mockeries of the most serious aveiros.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #274 on: May 18, 2015, 02:49:13 PM »
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #275 on: May 18, 2015, 02:58:36 PM »
Yes. The din of קנאין פוגעין בו (in effect a death penalty in the hands of the public) doesn't apply. That's where the difference starts and ends. Both are otherwise intentional mockeries of the most serious aveiros.
I wonder if you are also including the 11 year old kids in this
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #276 on: May 18, 2015, 02:59:00 PM »
In fact they're no that obscure look and you shall find. For starters-not metzaref to minyan, pasul shechitah.
However according to most, they can still do bircas kohanim, assuming they're a kohen of course.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #277 on: May 18, 2015, 03:00:03 PM »
Can someone please help me differentiate between this and Massey Zimry?

Yes. The din of קנאין פוגעין בו (in effect a death penalty in the hands of the public) doesn't apply. That's where the difference starts and ends. Both are otherwise intentional mockeries of the most serious aveiros.
Are you serious!?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #278 on: May 18, 2015, 03:02:16 PM »
This whole discussion is meaningless, until the age of 20 there is no Din of עונשין...

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #279 on: May 18, 2015, 03:02:23 PM »
Not sure what a nirdaf has to do with this. If you mean that someone is forcing him on penalty of death then no (at least in some cases). If not then absolutely yes. There are no excuses in halacha (he was abused etc etc). It's perfectly clear cut and even when the excuse makes sense to you (which I admit sometimes it does) it makes zero difference. Public chillul shabbos (in front of yidden) is a red line that must never be crossed.
There's no excuses for what halacha? As freddi succinctly highlighted we,re not eating their shcita, relying on their eidus,... So what are you applying this to? The right to give tochacha? Make a macha? Speak lashon harah? I would venture tob
 say for those nirdaf has everything to do with it