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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

Lakewood shabbos DO (singing kah echsof in the park, while smoking electric cigarettes using a shabbos switch

Confirmed:
Grodnoking (Need a shabbos switch for my Ecig, who can bring one?)

Probable:

Impossible:
henche


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ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #20 on: May 17, 2015, 06:46:48 PM »
It will be a turf war for a couple weeks till they get bored of it and find a new place to chill. Hopefully more private.
Not happening.
If you know of one maybe kindly suggest it to them but this won't do it
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #21 on: May 17, 2015, 06:48:40 PM »

It will be a turf war for a couple weeks till they get bored of it and find a new place to chill. Hopefully more private.
This is where your missing the point. The only way to help such boys, and girls is through acceptance, and love. Making turf wars is counter productive.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #22 on: May 17, 2015, 06:49:26 PM »

Not happening if you know of one maybe kindly suggest it to them but this won't do it
I wouldn't want to chill there if people came and made a kumzits every week, and I highly doubt they do. It's only fun smoking in their faces the first couple times.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #23 on: May 17, 2015, 06:49:33 PM »
This is where your missing the point. The only way to help such boys, and girls is through acceptance, and love. Making turf wars is counter productive.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #24 on: May 17, 2015, 06:50:02 PM »
This is where your missing the point. The only way to help such boys, and girls is through acceptance, and love. Making turf wars is counter productive.
. Doesn't sound like their goal is to help them as much as it is to hide them. Either way this isn't the way to go about it.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #25 on: May 17, 2015, 06:50:10 PM »

This is where your missing the point. The only way to help such boys, and girls is through acceptance, and love. Making turf wars is counter productive.
That's where you miss the point, they're not trying to help.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #26 on: May 17, 2015, 06:51:21 PM »
That's where you miss the point, they're not trying to help.
That's a huge problem as community leader its his responsibility to help not make it worse
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #27 on: May 17, 2015, 06:51:31 PM »

I wouldn't want to chill there if people came and made a kumzits every week, and I highly doubt they do. It's only fun smoking in their faces the first couple times.
So let's make a kumtzitz in front of them, creating more hate and disgust for the frum community
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #28 on: May 17, 2015, 06:52:54 PM »
If CBC was still around this would get so much more exciting
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #29 on: May 17, 2015, 06:53:54 PM »

That's a huge problem as community leader its his responsibility to help not make it worse
So let's make a kumtzitz in front of them, creating more hate and disgust for the frum community
Those are good points, I'm just saying what they're trying to achieve by doing this.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #30 on: May 17, 2015, 06:54:14 PM »

That's where you miss the point, they're not trying to help.
That's a huge problem as community leader its his responsibility to help not make it worse
That's exactly my point. Our goal should be, trying to help these kids. Not to create strife, and conflict. Plus all its doing is creating a massive chilul hashem.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #31 on: May 17, 2015, 06:59:14 PM »

That's exactly my point. Our goal should be, trying to help these kids. Not to create strife, and conflict. Plus all its doing is creating a massive chilul hashem.
There are plenty of people trying to help them and look we still have the problem. So now the others that are bothered by the problem have to find a new way to deal with it, cause helping them obviously won't do it.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #32 on: May 17, 2015, 07:01:53 PM »


There are plenty of people trying to help them and look we still have the problem. So now the others that are bothered by the problem have to find a new way to deal with it, cause helping them obviously won't do it.

When 99% are being counterproductive its very hard for the 1% who are trying to help
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #33 on: May 17, 2015, 07:04:43 PM »


When 99% are being counterproductive its very hard for the 1% who are trying to help
The 99% only came last week and the 1% couldn't do anything before that.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #34 on: May 17, 2015, 07:09:13 PM »
The 99% only came last week and the 1% couldn't do anything before that.
Give me a break if all you guys would do is be nice to them, nothing special just don't them feel like crap because they wear jeans it would be a very different situation but no one besides for a select few seem to care about them.

BTW why didn't anyone protest when the reform and conservative were in the middle of Lakewood? Just because you want a property is not a reason to tolerate chilul shabbos?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #35 on: May 17, 2015, 07:09:38 PM »
When there is a epidemic you have to isolate the patient even if its not his fault. I think they view kids going off the derech now as an epidemic and and therefore they must be isolated so that other kids shouldn't be chapped by them.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #36 on: May 17, 2015, 07:10:56 PM »
When there is a epidemic you have to isolate the patient even if its not his fault. I think they view kids going off the derech now as an epidemic and and therefore they must be isolated so that other kids shouldn't be chapped by them.
Would you say thay if it were your kid?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #37 on: May 17, 2015, 07:11:23 PM »
When there is a epidemic you have to isolate the patient even if its not his fault. I think they view kids going off the derech now as an epidemic and and therefore they must be isolated so that other kids shouldn't be chapped by them.

If that's your train of logic, then let the frum people isolate themselves.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #38 on: May 17, 2015, 07:11:36 PM »
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #39 on: May 17, 2015, 07:12:04 PM »

The 99% only came last week and the 1% couldn't do anything before that.
+1 help is been around for years.knowplan B is to get them to hang else where.