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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

Lakewood shabbos DO (singing kah echsof in the park, while smoking electric cigarettes using a shabbos switch

Confirmed:
Grodnoking (Need a shabbos switch for my Ecig, who can bring one?)

Probable:

Impossible:
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ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #40 on: May 17, 2015, 07:13:16 PM »
+1 help is been around for years.knowplan B is to get them to hang else where.
Maybe
Just maybe ask nicely?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #41 on: May 17, 2015, 07:14:02 PM »
They are asking nicely

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #42 on: May 17, 2015, 07:14:14 PM »

If that's your train of logic, then let the frum people isolate themselves.
I believe that's what frum people try to do as much as they could.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #43 on: May 17, 2015, 07:14:18 PM »
+1 help is been around for years.knowplan B is to get them to hang else where.
I have yet to meet someone who takes that position who really understands the situation
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #44 on: May 17, 2015, 07:14:42 PM »
That's exactly my point. Our goal should be, trying to help these kids. Not to create strife, and conflict. Plus all its doing is creating a massive chilul hashem.
That's not the definition of chillul hashem.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #45 on: May 17, 2015, 07:15:22 PM »
They are asking nicely
That's actually very aggressively no one asked nicely
Who do you think you're fooling
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #46 on: May 17, 2015, 07:15:48 PM »
@Avromie7  do you not agree its becoming an epidemic ?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #47 on: May 17, 2015, 07:16:45 PM »
@Avromie7  do you not agree its becoming an epidemic ?
I absolutely do now stop hiding your head in the sand and deal with the issue
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #48 on: May 17, 2015, 07:17:40 PM »

I absolutely do now stop hiding your head in the sand and deal with the issue
How would you deal with it?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #49 on: May 17, 2015, 07:17:51 PM »
That's not the definition of chillul hashem.
Just wait till the asbury park press picks it up it's bound to happen sooner rather than later
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #50 on: May 17, 2015, 07:19:20 PM »
How would you deal with it?
Be kind and accepting
Have somewhere else for them to hang out maybe open the minyan on shabbos too
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #51 on: May 17, 2015, 07:20:19 PM »
The so called experts had their chance and failed miserably, now its time to isolate them
I am not trying to curse you but you are so naive that your kids will end up there
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #52 on: May 17, 2015, 07:20:38 PM »
you are the one living with your head in sand, all that has been tried and made the situation much worse

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #53 on: May 17, 2015, 07:21:51 PM »
I am not trying to curse you but you are so naive that your kids will end up there
+1 million i almost threw up from reading some of this

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #54 on: May 17, 2015, 07:22:58 PM »
you are the one living with your head in sand, all that has been tried and made the situation much worse
What planet do you live in? Love to hear your theory why these kids are otd

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #55 on: May 17, 2015, 07:23:05 PM »
you are the one living with your head in sand, all that has been tried and made the situation much worse
You are obviously lacking understanding of the situation
Do you know any of these kids? I know many of them very well
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #56 on: May 17, 2015, 07:23:49 PM »
What planet do you live in? Love to hear your theory why these kids are otd
And what should be done to stop this trend
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #57 on: May 17, 2015, 07:25:45 PM »
I have tremendous rachmonos on them and their families but as i said when there is a epidemic you to have actually use  unkind methods to stop it.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #58 on: May 17, 2015, 07:26:24 PM »
I have tremendous rachmonos on them and their families but as i said when there is a epidemic you have actually use  unkind methods to stop it.

You are obviously lacking understanding of the situation
Do you know any of these kids? I know many of them very well
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #59 on: May 17, 2015, 07:28:49 PM »
I have tremendous rachmonos on them and their families but as i said when there is a epidemic you have actually use  unkind methods to stop it.
And this is going to stop the it how? I see two problems with this situation and I'm not sure which is the worse "epidemic"...