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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

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ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #760 on: May 21, 2015, 12:35:17 PM »
a) Pikuach Nefesh always superseded the whole Torah.

b) You can't equate the Haskalah movement and the Reform movement from the days of the Tzemach Tzedek and the Baaley Taavah of today...
Pikuach nefesh? What shaychas?
Anyone disagreeing whit my point has to answer my question in bold above where you see halacha isn't changed by such modern claims of "we might further alienate them so let's not do the right thing".

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #761 on: May 21, 2015, 12:36:02 PM »
Seriously-what's your point-you found one person who said kiruv is a good thing? People way before the baal hatanya said it. How does that negate what I said that "it hasn't been mentioned that much-not much in the Torah, Mishna, Gemara or Rishonim (a little, not a great focus)". You just showed me one place (and not even the most authoritative one you couldn't brought in). Nobody says kiruv is wrong but if it comes at the expense of other mitzvos it's a separate discussion.

How about you show me in shulchan aruch where it says that if someone is mechlel shabbos you can still count him to a minyan because not doing so would further alienate him? Or do you see that that point is irrelevant when it comes to halalcha?
You're worried for the people that are doing the kiruv and bringing them to places and getting them to daven that they aren't davening with a minyan? I have no doubt they has a Rov who thought of that for them

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #762 on: May 21, 2015, 12:36:08 PM »
Pikuach nefesh? What shaychas?
Ummmm we should try to save these kids spiritual lives
I wonder what people who type "u" instead of "you" do with all their free time.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #763 on: May 21, 2015, 12:37:51 PM »
You're worried for the people that are doing the kiruv and bringing them to places and getting them to daven that they aren't davening with a minyan? I have no doubt they has a Rov who thought of that for them
No no no-I'm making a point that we don't say you can bring them in because treating them as goyim will alienate them. We do what's right and that's that. Same here with public chillul shabbos-we do what we have to do.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #764 on: May 21, 2015, 12:38:49 PM »
I wonder how many good Lakewood teens are so disgusted by the events that they are now susceptible to going OTD in the future.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #765 on: May 21, 2015, 12:39:20 PM »
No no no-I'm making a point that we don't say you can bring them in because treating them as goyim will alienate them. We do what's right and that's that. Same here with public chillul shabbos-we do what we have to do.
We don't have to march down to the lake! why do we have to march down to the lake? please explain it to me

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #766 on: May 21, 2015, 12:40:48 PM »
Anyone disagreeing whit my point has to answer my question in bold above where you see halacha isn't changed by such modern claims of "we might further alienate them so let's not do the right thing".
To paraphrase the Frierdiker Rebbe, there are 4 Chalakim in Shulchan Aruch, the Halachos of Moridin Ve'ein Maalin are in the end of the fourth, your choice of the Halachos you focus on says a lot...

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #767 on: May 21, 2015, 12:41:03 PM »
Ummmm we should try to save these kids spiritual lives
Again it seems like you feel like you can bend halachos to help be mekarev people. Simple question-if I can drive an OTD kid to the mall oon shabbos to prevent him from hanging out by the lake wiht his bad buddies, is that ok bec of pikuach nefesh?

seriously what's wrong with some of you people. You can't make up new halachos like this. Protesting public chilllul shabbos is not pikuach nefesh bec it may anger some OTD kids by any stretch of the imagination.

How can you guys make up such dinim when the dinim of pikuach nefesh are spelled out quite clearly?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #768 on: May 21, 2015, 12:44:03 PM »
We don't have to march down to the lake! why do we have to march down to the lake? please explain it to me
You said please so you get it ;)....bec we have to show oursleves, our kids, and these OTD kids that public chillul shabbos, especially when it's done to flaunt us, won't be tolerated.
Nebech christian kids would have more respect for religion than these guys do. Good christian kids wouldn't hang around like that just out of respect. Not only do these kids violate shabbos but they do so disrespectfully of other sensitivities as well.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #769 on: May 21, 2015, 12:45:42 PM »
Ummmm we should try to save these kids spiritual lives

If they're getting into drugs, it could also mean they physical lives R"L.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #770 on: May 21, 2015, 12:46:38 PM »
Again it seems like you feel like you can bend halachos to help be mekarev people. Simple question-if I can drive an OTD kid to the mall oon shabbos to prevent him from hanging out by the lake wiht his bad buddies, is that ok bec of pikuach nefesh?

What's the connection between being Mechallel Shabbos yourself and not protesting someone else's Chillul Shabbos?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #771 on: May 21, 2015, 12:46:54 PM »

You said please so you get it ;)....bec we have to show oursleves, our kids, and these OTD kids that public chillul shabbos, especially when it's done to flaunt us, won't be tolerated.
Nebech christian kids would have more respect for religion than these guys do. Good christian kids wouldn't hang around like that just out of respect. Not only do these kids violate shabbos but they do so disrespectfully of other sensitivities as well.

But OTD Christians kids would.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #772 on: May 21, 2015, 12:47:16 PM »
You said please so you get it ;)....bec we have to show oursleves, our kids, and these OTD kids that public chillul shabbos, especially when it's done to flaunt us, won't be tolerated.
Nebech christian kids would have more respect for religion than these guys do. Good christian kids wouldn't hang around like that just out of respect. Not only do these kids violate shabbos but they do so disrespectfully of other sensitivities as well.

Maybe that should tell you something about these kids and the psychological state of mind they are in. They need help!!!
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #773 on: May 21, 2015, 12:49:19 PM »
And you're equating not agreeing with that as "bending halacha" !?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #774 on: May 21, 2015, 12:49:45 PM »
You said please so you get it ;)....bec we have to show oursleves, our kids, and these OTD kids that public chillul shabbos, especially when it's done to flaunt us, won't be tolerated.
Nebech christian kids would have more respect for religion than these guys do. Good christian kids wouldn't hang around like that just out of respect. Not only do these kids violate shabbos but they do so disrespectfully of other sensitivities as well.
Show yourself in other ways
Show your kids in healthy ways
Don't show the OTD kids anything - they won't listen to your musser anyways and I don't think it's done to flaunt you.
Please don't use the shvartza on the street card especially cause I don't think in the same scenario it would be true

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #775 on: May 21, 2015, 12:57:29 PM »
Pikuach nefesh? What shaychas?
Yes , according to reb Eliyashiv and reb shtienman (to name a few) Its "Pushot Pikuach Nefesh".  Not that we really need them to confirm such an obvious fact

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #776 on: May 21, 2015, 01:16:23 PM »
Yes , according to reb Eliyashiv and reb shtienman (to name a few) Its "Pushot Pikuach Nefesh".  Not that we really need them to confirm such an obvious fact
Aha ok so I'll meet you at the mall this shabbos. You drive an OTD teen there I'll drive another.
Anybody else in? Shabbos DO at the mall? Everybody drive and bring an OTD teen-it's for kiruv and it's pikuach nefesh so it's all good. We're just trying to keep them away from bad influneces so the whole Torah is off.
If they're getting into drugs, it could also mean they physical lives R"L.
Ok so you're in for the DO too. We got 3 so far-anybody else in???

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #777 on: May 21, 2015, 01:18:55 PM »
Maybe you're the one that sent him that text message?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #778 on: May 21, 2015, 01:20:26 PM »
Maybe you're the one that sent him that text message?
Hmm you're onto me now.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #779 on: May 21, 2015, 01:20:50 PM »
a) Pikuach Nefesh always superseded the whole Torah.
Pikuach nefesh? What shaychas?
Ummmm we should try to save these kids spiritual lives
Yes , according to reb Eliyashiv and reb shtienman (to name a few) Its "Pushot Pikuach Nefesh".  Not that we really need them to confirm such an obvious fact
do any of you actually believe that it is pikuach nefesh in the sense that it is doche kol hatorah?
Feelings don't care about your facts