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I hear both sides. While I am fairly certain that this will ultimately have a negative effect on the kids that were there, I understand that this protest was never intended to be for their benefit but rather to protest against public chilul shabbos. Is that a fair trade-off?

I did speak with a rabbi who I consider to be one of the world's foremost experts on helping OTD kids (and I have personal experience with way too many of them), and he was vehemently against it. He felt that a protest like this will cause significantly more kids to go off, as it now created an us-vs-them mentality that until now only simmered below the surface but is now being forced on them.

12 years ago I was ordered to leave Lakewood because of a (in hindsight) very trivial incident. Do you know what that type of ostracization does to an angry teenager? It makes them angrier and more eager to do the things that caused them to be ostracized in the first place. Some of these kids may have been only testing the waters, hanging out with friends who are much more brazen than them right now. Now they feel like they there's no return. Some of these kids have friends that they will now convince to join them who otherwise were only being mechalel shabbos behind closed doors. There are plenty of kids who are currently in yeshiva and looking the part, but also engaging in all forms of illicit activities including drugs and chilul shabbos. Many of these kids will now feel emboldened to join a "community" of like minded kids. Etc etc etc.

Chop off the limb to save the body, I get that concept even if I don't agree with it. But what about anything connected to that limb? This has consequences reaching far beyond the kids that were physically being mechalel shabbos at the  lake, and I don't think anyone thought about this beyond how it would affect the protesters and the protestees.

My 2 cents.

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ומ"ש בגמ' שמי שרואה בחבירו שחטא מצוה לשנאותו וגם לומר לרבו שישנאהו. היינו בחבירו בתורה ומצות וכבר קיים בו מצות הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך עם שאתך בתורה ובמצות ואעפ"כ לא שב מחטאו כמ"ש בס' חרדים

 אבל מי שאינו חבירו ואינו מקורב אצלו הנה ע"ז אמר הלל הזקן הוי מתלמידיו של אהרן אוהב שלום וכו' אוהב את הבריות ומקרבן לתורה. לומר שאף הרחוקים מתורת ה' ועבודתו ולכן נקראי' בשם בריות בעלמא צריך למשכן בחבלי עבותו' אהבה וכולי האי ואולי יוכל לקרבן לתורה ועבודת ה' והן לא לא הפסיד שכר מצות אהבת ריעים

וגם המקורבים אליו והוכיחם ולא שבו מעונותיהם שמצוה לשנאותם מצוה לאהבם ג"כ ושתיהן הן אמת שנאה מצד הרע שבהם ואהבה מצד בחי' הטוב הגנוז שבהם שהוא ניצוץ אלקות שבתוכם המחיה נפשם האלקית וגם לעורר רחמים בלבו עליה כי היא בבחי' גלות בתוך הרע מס"א הגובר עליה ברשעי' והרחמנות מבטלת השנאה ומעוררת האהבה כנודע ממ"ש ליעקב אשר פדה את אברהם [ולא אמר דה"עה תכלית שנאה שנאתים וגו' אלא על המינים והאפיקורסים שאין להם חלק באלהי ישראל כדאיתא בגמרא ר"פ ט"ז דשבת]:

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #800 on: May 21, 2015, 01:30:54 PM »
I want to go next shabbos to view the anti-frum Vs frum rally.
Should be a real kiddush hashem.
Good you now have 3 days of shabbos/yom tov to be mechalel l'toeles and fulfill the supreme mitzvah of kiruv.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #801 on: May 21, 2015, 01:31:38 PM »
For someone that was adamant about not bringing emotions into a logical argument..
Huh? I'm busy planning a DO and I wasn't planning on making it too emotional.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #802 on: May 21, 2015, 01:31:44 PM »
do any of you actually believe that it is pikuach nefesh in the sense that it is doche kol hatorah?

And you're equating not agreeing with that as "bending halacha" !?

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #803 on: May 21, 2015, 01:32:35 PM »
How are we/they preparing for this coming shabbos, it's already Thursday, any kol korahs went up yet?
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #804 on: May 21, 2015, 01:33:01 PM »
This is actually the tin man. Or is the gold man?
Do you know how to talk on the point or is talking about straw your thing?
How'd you guess? I actually eat straw for breakfast every day.

Kind of silly to get involved in this argument if my words will get twisted every time.
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #805 on: May 21, 2015, 01:34:13 PM »
@Aj3042 I am totally not following this thread, but you are saying people are willing to break halacha when all they are saying is you shouldn't protest. You are adding things to other peoples logic that doesn't exist.

It's like me saying Aj thinks protesting is good so he also thinks that punching them is good, but punching is against halacha, so Aj is wrong and no one can explain why he's not.

Maybe because no one holds that, and that's why no one is answering your questions, you made them up.
He was replying to what 1+1 wrote
a) Pikuach Nefesh always superseded the whole Torah.
On which he asked
Pikuach nefesh? What shaychas?
and they answered
Ummmm we should try to save these kids spiritual lives
Yes , according to reb Eliyashiv and reb shtienman (to name a few) Its "Pushot Pikuach Nefesh".  Not that we really need them to confirm such an obvious fact
That would seem to mean that they feel that helping OTD kids supersedes the whole Torah. I don't think any of them actually beleive that and therefore THEY are making a straw man with the pikuach nefesh argument.
Feelings don't care about your facts

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #806 on: May 21, 2015, 01:35:27 PM »
True. It is definitely ridiculous to suggest that this is pikuach nefesh and is doneh shabbos
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #807 on: May 21, 2015, 01:36:43 PM »
He was replying to what 1+1 wroteOn which he askedand they answeredThat would seem to mean that they feel that helping OTD kids supersedes the whole Torah. I don't think any of them actually beleive that and therefore THEY are making a straw man with the pikuach nefesh argument.
Good points? Anyone?
True. It is definitely ridiculous to suggest that this is pikuach nefesh and is doneh shabbos
So we finally agree on something which a few minutes ago was actually being debated, believe it or not,

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #808 on: May 21, 2015, 01:38:43 PM »
He was replying to what 1+1 wroteOn which he askedand they answeredThat would seem to mean that they feel that helping OTD kids supersedes the whole Torah. I don't think any of them actually beleive that and therefore THEY are making a straw man with the pikuach nefesh argument.

This post for sure took too much work

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #809 on: May 21, 2015, 01:39:19 PM »
So we finally agree on something which a few minutes ago was actually being debated, believe it or not,
No it wasn't come on

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #810 on: May 21, 2015, 01:40:44 PM »
No it wasn't come on
There's no point arguing with a straw man.
Save your time, I don't answer PM. Post it in the forum and a dedicated DDF'er will get back to you as soon as possible.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #811 on: May 21, 2015, 01:46:04 PM »
There's no point arguing with a straw man.
Indeed.
I don't think any of them actually beleive that and therefore THEY are making a straw man with the pikuach nefesh argument.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #812 on: May 21, 2015, 01:49:09 PM »
I want to go next shabbos to view the anti-frum Vs frum rally.
Should be a real kiddush hashem.
You can make a shabbos DO protesting the protest

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #813 on: May 21, 2015, 01:50:05 PM »
Im dizzy

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #814 on: May 21, 2015, 01:54:50 PM »
I'm not who you think I am.

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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #815 on: May 21, 2015, 01:55:49 PM »
Im dizzy
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #817 on: May 21, 2015, 01:57:13 PM »
I can get you some cannabis for medicinal purposes if you'd like...
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
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Re: Lakewood Shabbos rally
« Reply #819 on: May 21, 2015, 01:58:48 PM »
No what I'm saying is that if protesting public chillul shabbos done to flaunt is is a good thing then the fact that it will anger OTD teens is irrelevant.
So the argument is really coming down to is the protest a good thing.

It seems you are not taking the OTD's into consideration, while the others are taking them into consideration.

Others are saying the protest itself is a bad thing because it will cause OTD's to go off even more. If the argument starts there you can understand why halacha has nothing to do with this argument it is a question of hashkafa and if you look at ll yidden as one and there aveira is my aveira, or do we care for our kids and don't care about pushing the OTD's away even more.

Also there is a difference of having a halachik status of pikuach nefesh or looking at a situation as so dire it is like pikuac nefesh and you should do everything in your power within the context of halacha to help with that situation.

I am sorry if you weren't explained that last point well, but it just takes some common sense to figure it out.

I believe this answers all of your questions.

(ETA: I think it all comes down to you are only looking at it from your kids perspective while others are also taking into consideration the OTD's, if you see that I think you'll be more comfortable with the disagreement here.)
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